"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to stop being an A-hole???

escobar04

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guys, I need some help, dont like asking but I'm just a bit confused

ok, I'm pretty good-looking, even the ranking score on Myspace says I'm an 8.1, wealthy, nice body etc.

I'm naturally what you would say ****y and funny but I seem to take it too far.

I think my problem is that I have zero respect for girls.

I was on a date last Sat. and the chick told me that I'm sorta perfect and stuff but I cant treat a lady right

I do notice that my "jokes" are waaay too far for girls to handle as if I make them feel really bad about themselves in a jerky manner. they're still jokes, I'm not some serious-look-on-my-face-typa-dude but girls just get intimidated or something

I definately stretch the term ****y.

the question is-how do I stop all this, I dont wanna become a nice guy or nothing but I need to know if there's a level of just being a normal man, or will I always be an arrogant a$$hole????
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJnoob

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i would like to hear your jokes. Can you give examples of the things you said
 

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Originally posted by escobar04
the question is-how do I stop all this, I dont wanna become a nice guy or nothing but I need to know if there's a level of just being a normal man, or will I always be an arrogant a$$hole????
Well then, what do you want to become? You want to be normal, but normal in whose eyes? If your character is seriously a problem, then a change might be good. But if you're trying to change without even understanding the reasons for doing it, then I wonder what's the motivation behind your desire to change.

Do you really believe that your character is flawed in some way and it is making you unhappy? Or do you just want to get laid a lot easier?
 
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