I'm sick of this. I grew up with a mom who was so frugal that it has worn off on me. I am in very good financial shape, probably better than 95% of people my age, but I still worry about my finances way too much. Don't get me wrong - I don't want to waste my money on ridiculous purchases and bad debts, but I'd like to not stress out every time I want to buy a pizza. Any ideas? Books that might help me?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How to stop being a cheapskate?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
penkitten
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most responsible people are a little too frugal
its not entirely a bad thing
its not entirely a bad thing
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cheapskates are the worlds worst form of scumbag.
Nothin wrong with saving your dough and not wasting it on garbage. Just think this "i might die tomorrow, so if i want this now, ill buy it".
I hope your not the type to skimp on tips.
Nothin wrong with saving your dough and not wasting it on garbage. Just think this "i might die tomorrow, so if i want this now, ill buy it".
I hope your not the type to skimp on tips.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
penkitten
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well my momma always said "watch what you spend on christmas because you still have to live after the presents are all unwrapped"
al77
Master Don Juan
A frugal guy a) worries too much about money b) have hard time dealing with women since guy's frugality is a major turn off for women.
Maybe meant being frugal is ok for women?
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Nope, never have been and never will be.
But ive been with cheapskate friends who give some lame 25 cent type tip and it sickens me. Im a good tipper because servers work their asses off plus i just like giving them dough for some reason lol.
Its just no fun being with people who are always worried about spending.
"hey bro, wanna go to this show downtown tonight"
-'nah man dont wanna spend 10 bucks on a ticket'
"hey bro, lets hit the club"
-'no way man, parking alone is gonna set me back!'
"wanna hit this new restaurant ?"
-'blablablabla'
People like that suck.
But ive been with cheapskate friends who give some lame 25 cent type tip and it sickens me. Im a good tipper because servers work their asses off plus i just like giving them dough for some reason lol.
Its just no fun being with people who are always worried about spending.
"hey bro, wanna go to this show downtown tonight"
-'nah man dont wanna spend 10 bucks on a ticket'
"hey bro, lets hit the club"
-'no way man, parking alone is gonna set me back!'
"wanna hit this new restaurant ?"
-'blablablabla'
People like that suck.
Thats exactly how i feel, i live very cheaply, I get probably $700-$750 per week after tax yet i worry about spending $10 extra on getting a bus each week between work and the train station instead of walking (which i often do) and i get annoyed if the price of something goes up (even if only by a little). I may get a bit better as time goes by but i don't know.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.