I'm sick of this. I grew up with a mom who was so frugal that it has worn off on me. I am in very good financial shape, probably better than 95% of people my age, but I still worry about my finances way too much. Don't get me wrong - I don't want to waste my money on ridiculous purchases and bad debts, but I'd like to not stress out every time I want to buy a pizza. Any ideas? Books that might help me?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How to stop being a cheapskate?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
penkitten
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most responsible people are a little too frugal
its not entirely a bad thing
its not entirely a bad thing
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cheapskates are the worlds worst form of scumbag.
Nothin wrong with saving your dough and not wasting it on garbage. Just think this "i might die tomorrow, so if i want this now, ill buy it".
I hope your not the type to skimp on tips.
Nothin wrong with saving your dough and not wasting it on garbage. Just think this "i might die tomorrow, so if i want this now, ill buy it".
I hope your not the type to skimp on tips.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
penkitten
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well my momma always said "watch what you spend on christmas because you still have to live after the presents are all unwrapped"
al77
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A frugal guy a) worries too much about money b) have hard time dealing with women since guy's frugality is a major turn off for women.
Maybe meant being frugal is ok for women?
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Nope, never have been and never will be.
But ive been with cheapskate friends who give some lame 25 cent type tip and it sickens me. Im a good tipper because servers work their asses off plus i just like giving them dough for some reason lol.
Its just no fun being with people who are always worried about spending.
"hey bro, wanna go to this show downtown tonight"
-'nah man dont wanna spend 10 bucks on a ticket'
"hey bro, lets hit the club"
-'no way man, parking alone is gonna set me back!'
"wanna hit this new restaurant ?"
-'blablablabla'
People like that suck.
But ive been with cheapskate friends who give some lame 25 cent type tip and it sickens me. Im a good tipper because servers work their asses off plus i just like giving them dough for some reason lol.
Its just no fun being with people who are always worried about spending.
"hey bro, wanna go to this show downtown tonight"
-'nah man dont wanna spend 10 bucks on a ticket'
"hey bro, lets hit the club"
-'no way man, parking alone is gonna set me back!'
"wanna hit this new restaurant ?"
-'blablablabla'
People like that suck.
Thats exactly how i feel, i live very cheaply, I get probably $700-$750 per week after tax yet i worry about spending $10 extra on getting a bus each week between work and the train station instead of walking (which i often do) and i get annoyed if the price of something goes up (even if only by a little). I may get a bit better as time goes by but i don't know.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.