I'm sick of this. I grew up with a mom who was so frugal that it has worn off on me. I am in very good financial shape, probably better than 95% of people my age, but I still worry about my finances way too much. Don't get me wrong - I don't want to waste my money on ridiculous purchases and bad debts, but I'd like to not stress out every time I want to buy a pizza. Any ideas? Books that might help me?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How to stop being a cheapskate?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
penkitten
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most responsible people are a little too frugal
its not entirely a bad thing
its not entirely a bad thing
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cheapskates are the worlds worst form of scumbag.
Nothin wrong with saving your dough and not wasting it on garbage. Just think this "i might die tomorrow, so if i want this now, ill buy it".
I hope your not the type to skimp on tips.
Nothin wrong with saving your dough and not wasting it on garbage. Just think this "i might die tomorrow, so if i want this now, ill buy it".
I hope your not the type to skimp on tips.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
penkitten
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well my momma always said "watch what you spend on christmas because you still have to live after the presents are all unwrapped"
al77
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A frugal guy a) worries too much about money b) have hard time dealing with women since guy's frugality is a major turn off for women.
Maybe meant being frugal is ok for women?
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Nope, never have been and never will be.
But ive been with cheapskate friends who give some lame 25 cent type tip and it sickens me. Im a good tipper because servers work their asses off plus i just like giving them dough for some reason lol.
Its just no fun being with people who are always worried about spending.
"hey bro, wanna go to this show downtown tonight"
-'nah man dont wanna spend 10 bucks on a ticket'
"hey bro, lets hit the club"
-'no way man, parking alone is gonna set me back!'
"wanna hit this new restaurant ?"
-'blablablabla'
People like that suck.
But ive been with cheapskate friends who give some lame 25 cent type tip and it sickens me. Im a good tipper because servers work their asses off plus i just like giving them dough for some reason lol.
Its just no fun being with people who are always worried about spending.
"hey bro, wanna go to this show downtown tonight"
-'nah man dont wanna spend 10 bucks on a ticket'
"hey bro, lets hit the club"
-'no way man, parking alone is gonna set me back!'
"wanna hit this new restaurant ?"
-'blablablabla'
People like that suck.
Thats exactly how i feel, i live very cheaply, I get probably $700-$750 per week after tax yet i worry about spending $10 extra on getting a bus each week between work and the train station instead of walking (which i often do) and i get annoyed if the price of something goes up (even if only by a little). I may get a bit better as time goes by but i don't know.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.