"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How To Stimulate The Conversation

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just latch on one word of what she s saying

she might say " it s raining hard but it good for the plants
she useS the word PLANTS so u ask her
" do you have a big garden then ?

DO YOU GROW VEGGIES THERE ?

YOU single out one word and you flesh out a convo with THAT word !!!

it s called CHERRY PÏCKING or finding the cherry

as a language teacher i used to use a similar technique to stimulate the conversation with my students i d write A word on one piece of paper i d screw up the piece into a little ball , i d make quite a few balls like this !! then i d ask the student to pick a ball , we d get the word FLOWER for instance and i d ask him Qs around the word FLOWER

WHAT S YOUR FAVORITE FLOWER ?
I HAD A GF CALLED " FLOWER " do u think it s a cute name ?
BLA BLA
do u think you should buy a woman flowers for her birthday ?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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