"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How To Stimulate The Conversation

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just latch on one word of what she s saying

she might say " it s raining hard but it good for the plants
she useS the word PLANTS so u ask her
" do you have a big garden then ?

DO YOU GROW VEGGIES THERE ?

YOU single out one word and you flesh out a convo with THAT word !!!

it s called CHERRY PÏCKING or finding the cherry

as a language teacher i used to use a similar technique to stimulate the conversation with my students i d write A word on one piece of paper i d screw up the piece into a little ball , i d make quite a few balls like this !! then i d ask the student to pick a ball , we d get the word FLOWER for instance and i d ask him Qs around the word FLOWER

WHAT S YOUR FAVORITE FLOWER ?
I HAD A GF CALLED " FLOWER " do u think it s a cute name ?
BLA BLA
do u think you should buy a woman flowers for her birthday ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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