"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how to stay emotionally detatched with a F@ck Buddy

soulforge

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so guys, what are the does & dont's when you are seeing a girl, but you only see her as a fucck buddy? not long term material

what are the does and dont's in this type of situation?

how do you deal with her trying to get affection out of you (ie) kissing & cuddeling etc?

how do you deal with soppy text messages from her??


what if she wants to spend the next day with you, or wants to go out for meals or days out etc???

how do you keep things strictly on the fucck buddy level, when she is hoping for more from you!!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Epimanes

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Be honest. Let her know what your intentions are or you will just create another feminist b!tch.

*shrugs*


Epi
 

Starfvcks 64

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soulforge said:
so guys, what are the does & dont's when you are seeing a girl, but you only see her as a fucck buddy? not long term material
The most important part, and this needs to happen: PURSUE OTHER GIRLS.
She will be pursuing other guys, and you probably won't know about it, and she could leave you at any moment, for any reason. A mistake guys make is telling themselves they don't have feelings, but end up realizing they do when the girl leaves him.

You may want to reconsider what you have with her, because I don't do FWB relationships anymore. I just date "casually." There really isn't much difference between that and an FWB type of situation, except that she isn't a friend, she is a girl i'm seeing occasionally. When a girl starts getting too clingy, I just keep my distance and if she keeps being annoying, I'll consider dropping her.

How to deal with soppy messages? Ignore or switch topics.
 

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Slow her down by saying that you're not looking for anything serious and then pursue other options
 

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Stop banging her. Anything else will only lead to problems after a few months. Period.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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