i know this girl in one of my classes, we never actually had a conversation, accept a 3 minut one but we do know each other. i would likt to have a good conversation to get a connection with her. what can i do to break that ice???
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
how to start talk to a girl i know
- Thread starter eax5
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
TDOT
Don Juan
OK, I don't know why I'm letting you in on this secret weapon of mine
This is what you do
Approach her, softy squeeze her upper arm then say:
You: Something.
Her: What?
You: I just had to come over and say "SOME - THING " to you because I would hate myself forever if I didn't take this grand opportunity to speak.
This is what you do
Approach her, softy squeeze her upper arm then say:
You: Something.
Her: What?
You: I just had to come over and say "SOME - THING " to you because I would hate myself forever if I didn't take this grand opportunity to speak.
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Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
eax5...here's something to remember. People like to go with the flow. It is subconcious and people don't even notice when it happens. People can also go against it if they are extremly optimistic or pessimistic. The point I am gettin to is that if you go to a girl and act like the two of you are best friends, after a couple minutes, she will start to believe it (or at least that you are friends) Have you ever seen someone who you thought you knew, smiled and waved at them and watched them put on that awkward face, but stay to see if they remembered you? It is easy.
It's even easier for you because you already talked to her once. That is primarily the hardest part. Just think of something you talked about last time and act like you talk every day. You'll do fine
It's even easier for you because you already talked to her once. That is primarily the hardest part. Just think of something you talked about last time and act like you talk every day. You'll do fine
get your conversation tips from Rudolph the Movie. He11 yeah.
when she is talking to one of your friends, add something there. Remember, you are talking to the friend and not her. Soon she will talk. Then you will talk and she will talk again and on and on and on...
when she is talking to one of your friends, add something there. Remember, you are talking to the friend and not her. Soon she will talk. Then you will talk and she will talk again and on and on and on...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
TDOT
Don Juan
Another opener:
You: Trick
Her: What did you just call me?!
You: I didn't call you anything, do you want to see a cardtrick?
#1:
Her: sure.
You: Well I can't show you right now because I don't have
any cards, give me your number and when I get some I'll contact you because I really want to show you this trick
#2:
Her: No.
You: You know that the word `no' spelled backwards is `on', are you trying to tell me that I turn you on?
Her: No.
You: We have confirmation, so my suspicions were correct.
#3:
[she actually has some cards and hands them to you]
[you take the deck and say]
You: Let me check to see if they are all here
[thumb through the deck and pull out the queen of diamonds without her knowing]
[take it and say]
You: I'm going to amazingly make your picture appear on this card
[shake it two or three times then show her the face displaying the queen of diamonds]
(she'll melt)
You: Trick
Her: What did you just call me?!
You: I didn't call you anything, do you want to see a cardtrick?
#1:
Her: sure.
You: Well I can't show you right now because I don't have
any cards, give me your number and when I get some I'll contact you because I really want to show you this trick
#2:
Her: No.
You: You know that the word `no' spelled backwards is `on', are you trying to tell me that I turn you on?
Her: No.
You: We have confirmation, so my suspicions were correct.
#3:
[she actually has some cards and hands them to you]
[you take the deck and say]
You: Let me check to see if they are all here
[thumb through the deck and pull out the queen of diamonds without her knowing]
[take it and say]
You: I'm going to amazingly make your picture appear on this card
[shake it two or three times then show her the face displaying the queen of diamonds]
(she'll melt)
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
dude, not all that hard to break the ice. You say that the 2 of you have classes together? Then the answer is pretty darn simple. Just go over to her and as k for the anwer to some semi-long answer, or help with it. Then use your sense of humor and a little imagination( I seriously hope U have both) and before U know it, you both will have a good conversation.
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The whole Cardtrick thing is to tacky. I've shown guys and girls card tricks at school but I wouldn't do it from "hey one day I want to show you this trick because its so cool"
Anyways, you have class with her right? I'll name a few things...
1. Ask her if she did her homework,
2. Ask her what she thinks abou the teacher.
3. If the class is before lunch ask her what shes having? If its after that class ask her what she had
4. Go over something similar to what you talked with her before about.
5. "That's a cute outfit" I Havn't tried that one yet. (im always making fun of girls outfits) Girls are so fun to tease hehehe. I wouldn't suggest any teasing until after you talked to her atleast 3 times or so.
Don't worry so much about what your going to talk about with her but what your talking about with yourself (self confidence)
Anyways, you have class with her right? I'll name a few things...
1. Ask her if she did her homework,
2. Ask her what she thinks abou the teacher.
3. If the class is before lunch ask her what shes having? If its after that class ask her what she had
4. Go over something similar to what you talked with her before about.
5. "That's a cute outfit" I Havn't tried that one yet. (im always making fun of girls outfits) Girls are so fun to tease hehehe. I wouldn't suggest any teasing until after you talked to her atleast 3 times or so.
Don't worry so much about what your going to talk about with her but what your talking about with yourself (self confidence)