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Don Juan
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There is a girl in several of my classes and we sit together (initially coincidentally) in them so this raises the stakes if I don't handle this right because I will be next to her for the next few months. I am not necessarily looking for a relationship but it would be great if one developed. We both just began school so if we just became friends that would be okay too, although obviously not the preferred result. I don't want to fall into the LJBF zone except as a last resort. How do I gradually begin to advance things? I don't want a formal date or anything. One day we have a two hour break between classes. I was thinking of asking her to lunch (I hate coffee so a coffee "date" is out the picture) on that day. Is that a good idea? Could I do something better, like ask her to go to dinner or something else on a Friday night?
I haven't shown my intentions yet. I haven't even gotten her phone number yet. Could I wait a bit longer before asking her for it or go for it with a "in case I have questions about the reading/assignment what is your number?" or a more point-blank "what is your #? we should get together sometime" etc.
As far as whether she is into me, she does usually laugh at even the most slightly funny thing I say and several times she has preened herself excessively in class. Today, for instance, I was looking in her direction but she logically could have thought I was checking her out sneakily and began to preen her hair excessively immediately after that. I almost always come to class after her so I am the one who sits next to her but we sat together by chance the first time (we happened to walk in together, she sat down and I sat next to her) and she could have sat somewhere else the next day but she sat in the same seat she was in the day before. Still, that suggests she likes me, but that could be just as a friend.
She also has a ring but the ring is in the middle of her finger, not at the base. I don't know if that has any significance. It has no rock on it so it could be a class ring or something. She has not mentioned having a boyfriend and likely would have if she wanted to deter me.
Any advice would be appreciated.
I haven't shown my intentions yet. I haven't even gotten her phone number yet. Could I wait a bit longer before asking her for it or go for it with a "in case I have questions about the reading/assignment what is your number?" or a more point-blank "what is your #? we should get together sometime" etc.
As far as whether she is into me, she does usually laugh at even the most slightly funny thing I say and several times she has preened herself excessively in class. Today, for instance, I was looking in her direction but she logically could have thought I was checking her out sneakily and began to preen her hair excessively immediately after that. I almost always come to class after her so I am the one who sits next to her but we sat together by chance the first time (we happened to walk in together, she sat down and I sat next to her) and she could have sat somewhere else the next day but she sat in the same seat she was in the day before. Still, that suggests she likes me, but that could be just as a friend.
She also has a ring but the ring is in the middle of her finger, not at the base. I don't know if that has any significance. It has no rock on it so it could be a class ring or something. She has not mentioned having a boyfriend and likely would have if she wanted to deter me.
Any advice would be appreciated.