Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How to save money when everything costs money?
- Thread starter Special T
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
As for saving money, yes things cost money, so you just have to decide what's worth it and what isn't.
Some things you should be able to cut out fairly painlessly are eating out and drinking at bars (drink less or at least predrink). Also don't drive like a dumbass because gas isn't free, take advantage of deals such as movie cheap night, etc.
If that isn't enough, then depending on your financial situation and how pricey your hobbies are, you may have to make bigger sacrifices. For example if you work minimum wage and your hobby is yacht sailing, there may be a problem that simple budgeting won't fix. Be realistic.
For example, instead of buying a junker of a car. Buy something a little more expensive, like a car just off lease, that is more reliable and requires less repairs and maintenance. In the long run, it costs you less to operate per year then a gas guzzling SUV you bought from a neighbor that breaks down all the time.
You buy a computer, buy something with more reliable parts and keep it working longer instead of replacing it every two years.
When borrowing money, shop around. Get the best deal you can. When paying back money, pay back the highest interest loans first. For example, lets say you have $1000 in credit cards at 14% interest and $500 at 3% interest in your line of credit. If you pay off the credit cards first, you save more money. Even if you only have $500 in the line of credit, if you pay off the credit first you pay less interest. Work it out on paper if you need proof.
... etc.
Sources: I'm in school for Business Finance, I can get you some links for reading material if you want.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PlaysToWin
Don Juan
If you don't need a car (you live in a big city) don't have one.
Everything costs money, you can scrimp and save all you want but that takes time and energy.
If you make 30K and are really good at saving you can turn it into 40K
If you make 120K you can blow 40K on dumb sh1t and still have 80K to be smart with..
Also, having a tight ride is huge in dating IMO..
When you are dating a chick, if you have a nice car and don't act like it's a big deal, you demonstrate higher value the entire time she's with you without saying anything at all.
I have about 3 other endeavors besides my day job and two of them are starting to pay off. Once I get these up and running I plan on hiring someone to do most of the work and then start something else. Multiple streams of income is the way forward.
You have to work your tail off for money and buy and live cheap.Special T said:
Hobbies with girls aren't expensive and a social life isn't expensive either. You have to budget, think smart, don't waste money on stupid things. If you go to nightclubs every night and buy 3 girls drinks hoping to get laid by one of them, then yes, you will not save money. If you work hard for money, spend money on a girl you care about and make her have fun, you will be fine.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Kiyosaki is one of the biggest frauds in financial circles, but he has one thing right: focus on growing your money as opposed to focusing entirely on saving. If you have a good budget and track your growth, one can include their hobbies and social life without hindering your financial growth.
Don't listen to adverts, don't buy stuff you don't need. Why would you buy that can of coke? Will it make you happy? Will it fulfil you? I doubt it. Why buy a new TV, will the higher resolution and more pixels make you happy? Will it make you successful? I doubt it.
Focus on only using your HARD EARNED money to buy experiences, or thins you actually need: Food, House, Clothes etc.
The only things I really spend money on are clothes, the Gym, tennis lessons and singing lessons. All of which are important hobbies and will help me socially. But don't go overboard buying 50 different colognes etc. Research thoroughly before spending your HARD EARNED money, or it'll be wasted.
Live frugally and you'll find you are much more happy, not being bound to your material possession. Just like in Fight Club "The things you own end up owning you"
.Their stuff is basic and to the point. Great for most situations.
How are your savings? Hope you've got the 3months living expenses saved up in a rainy day fund.
Haha. True. I spent at least 6 months shopping and researching cars before I got mine. It's the best thing I've ever bought because I took my time to consider everything I could. Still happy with it 2 years later.CaptainJ said: