"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How to save money when everything costs money?
- Thread starter Special T
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
As for saving money, yes things cost money, so you just have to decide what's worth it and what isn't.
Some things you should be able to cut out fairly painlessly are eating out and drinking at bars (drink less or at least predrink). Also don't drive like a dumbass because gas isn't free, take advantage of deals such as movie cheap night, etc.
If that isn't enough, then depending on your financial situation and how pricey your hobbies are, you may have to make bigger sacrifices. For example if you work minimum wage and your hobby is yacht sailing, there may be a problem that simple budgeting won't fix. Be realistic.
For example, instead of buying a junker of a car. Buy something a little more expensive, like a car just off lease, that is more reliable and requires less repairs and maintenance. In the long run, it costs you less to operate per year then a gas guzzling SUV you bought from a neighbor that breaks down all the time.
You buy a computer, buy something with more reliable parts and keep it working longer instead of replacing it every two years.
When borrowing money, shop around. Get the best deal you can. When paying back money, pay back the highest interest loans first. For example, lets say you have $1000 in credit cards at 14% interest and $500 at 3% interest in your line of credit. If you pay off the credit cards first, you save more money. Even if you only have $500 in the line of credit, if you pay off the credit first you pay less interest. Work it out on paper if you need proof.
... etc.
Sources: I'm in school for Business Finance, I can get you some links for reading material if you want.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
PlaysToWin
Don Juan
If you don't need a car (you live in a big city) don't have one.
Everything costs money, you can scrimp and save all you want but that takes time and energy.
If you make 30K and are really good at saving you can turn it into 40K
If you make 120K you can blow 40K on dumb sh1t and still have 80K to be smart with..
Also, having a tight ride is huge in dating IMO..
When you are dating a chick, if you have a nice car and don't act like it's a big deal, you demonstrate higher value the entire time she's with you without saying anything at all.
I have about 3 other endeavors besides my day job and two of them are starting to pay off. Once I get these up and running I plan on hiring someone to do most of the work and then start something else. Multiple streams of income is the way forward.
You have to work your tail off for money and buy and live cheap.Special T said:
Hobbies with girls aren't expensive and a social life isn't expensive either. You have to budget, think smart, don't waste money on stupid things. If you go to nightclubs every night and buy 3 girls drinks hoping to get laid by one of them, then yes, you will not save money. If you work hard for money, spend money on a girl you care about and make her have fun, you will be fine.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Kiyosaki is one of the biggest frauds in financial circles, but he has one thing right: focus on growing your money as opposed to focusing entirely on saving. If you have a good budget and track your growth, one can include their hobbies and social life without hindering your financial growth.
Don't listen to adverts, don't buy stuff you don't need. Why would you buy that can of coke? Will it make you happy? Will it fulfil you? I doubt it. Why buy a new TV, will the higher resolution and more pixels make you happy? Will it make you successful? I doubt it.
Focus on only using your HARD EARNED money to buy experiences, or thins you actually need: Food, House, Clothes etc.
The only things I really spend money on are clothes, the Gym, tennis lessons and singing lessons. All of which are important hobbies and will help me socially. But don't go overboard buying 50 different colognes etc. Research thoroughly before spending your HARD EARNED money, or it'll be wasted.
Live frugally and you'll find you are much more happy, not being bound to your material possession. Just like in Fight Club "The things you own end up owning you"
.Their stuff is basic and to the point. Great for most situations.
How are your savings? Hope you've got the 3months living expenses saved up in a rainy day fund.
Haha. True. I spent at least 6 months shopping and researching cars before I got mine. It's the best thing I've ever bought because I took my time to consider everything I could. Still happy with it 2 years later.CaptainJ said: