"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Went out with my buddy and the girl he's smashing and her friend. Her friend and I are hitting it off at the bar sitting alone drinking. We all decide to hit a next bar, jump in his car and his chick is drink, disrespecting so he kicks her out. The girl I'm trying to smash apologies for her friend and says she has to go with her to get her laptop because it's at her house. I get her digits and we leave. Few days later my buddy says he saw them both and the friend wants him to give me her number to text her. I text her and playfully say "how many numbers you have? Also said my buddy said you want me to text you, here I am, entertain me girl".

3 hours later I get " Until I get my other phone back". 3 hours later I text "Saturday we are chilling at my place do you drive or need me to pick you up"?

That was last night at 9pm, she responds today at 4pm with a text "hey hey". Wtf, how would you guys play this, how long should I wait to text back? Thanks guys.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Whats there to respond to? Maybe she is busy, has other plans or maybe she is waiting to see what options she has before committing to anything, which is why she is still is communicating...

In fact that's likely what it is...she is trying to determine her best option, which means you aren't it as of right now. Do what you want. Either leave it be for a week or so and try again or hit her up tomorrow and try to get a response out of her.
 
The Duke

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Yep probably has other guys she is messing with, maybe forgot to respond. No matter what, its low interest on her part. I would ignore, and if she is interested she will try again.
 
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Spin more plates so you don't obsess over individual b!tches. Check back with her in a week and see if she wants to meet up. If not, move on.

MEN: You should have a busy enough schedule (and enough plates) that you barely notice when a chick doesn't respond quickly. And a woman you aren't already f*cking is never worth making an Internet thread about. No woman is important until she sleeps with you or at least gets physical.

I can't stress spinning plates enough. Women will basically compete for your attention and sex comes with almost no effort. They all want to be top plate.
 
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