Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Well it would be good if the reasoning behind her apology wasn't because she went nuts over the ex and had me travel around. She didn't even end up meeting up with him just had a big fight over the fone and then told me they were done. So although this apology might sound AFC, it could also be that she isn't being rude because she shouldn't have been pulling that sh*t while out with me and she knos it wasn't cool.My Name is Nobody said:You are on the right track Baconator... you are making the woman become AFC..
That is what it's all about and that's how you win the game.
As for a good reply? I'm still thinking about it and I'm tired as hell, so don't count on me.. BUT, ignoring the text is probably your best weapon. Don't reply, it will drive her mad.
TheBaconator said:Well it would be good if the reasoning behind her apology wasn't because she went nuts over the ex and had me travel around. She didn't even end up meeting up with him just had a big fight over the fone and then told me they were done. So although this apology might sound AFC, it could also be that she isn't being rude because she shouldn't have been pulling that sh*t while out with me and she knos it wasn't cool.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What happened last night? I don't have time to read through your other posts.TheBaconator said:For those who read my other thread and know this situation, how should I respond to this.
She texted me just now:
"Hey sorry bout last nite i was upset, hopefully i didnt ruin your whole nite"
We were havin a great time until she got upset upon hearing her ex was out on a date and she wanted to go confront him about it, and since she was drunk I wouldn't let her ride the trains alone so I went. She didnt end up seein him just a fight over the fone and then said they were done for good.Mavrick said:What happened last night? I don't have time to read through your other posts.
Nice, my thoughts exactly...WesCottII said:I'd do one of 2 things, ignore it (because what can you really say?) or say "I didn't really notice much babe".
Both make out she's not playing on your mind constantly, and put you in a position of power. However, i'd be tempted to go for the ignore option, because if she ruined MY night, this'd be like her punishment.
Based on this info, this girl isn't interested in you.TheBaconator said:My status is we went out on 1 date and it was great up until she had a breakdown over her ex getting with another girl. We were in the city and she asked me to come back with her to BK just to confront him, which I did only because she was drunk and didn't want her riding the trains alone.
I know i'm not number 1 on her list, but she has interest, there was a lot of flirting and kino from both of us all day, and like I said we hooked up a couple times in the night.Max Power said:Based on this info, this girl isn't interested in you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Truth be told I don't care. I'm not going to pursue a relationship with her, but I would like to hookup again and get some action from her. I responded with "don't sweat it". I'll wait to see if she asks me to come out with her again and if she doesn't i'll give it a call in a week or so.Mavrick said:Don't let it bother you and don't show that it bothers you, but beware, you'll only be a rebound for this chick. It's best to move on.