Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well it would be good if the reasoning behind her apology wasn't because she went nuts over the ex and had me travel around. She didn't even end up meeting up with him just had a big fight over the fone and then told me they were done. So although this apology might sound AFC, it could also be that she isn't being rude because she shouldn't have been pulling that sh*t while out with me and she knos it wasn't cool.My Name is Nobody said:You are on the right track Baconator... you are making the woman become AFC..
That is what it's all about and that's how you win the game.
As for a good reply? I'm still thinking about it and I'm tired as hell, so don't count on me.. BUT, ignoring the text is probably your best weapon. Don't reply, it will drive her mad.
TheBaconator said:Well it would be good if the reasoning behind her apology wasn't because she went nuts over the ex and had me travel around. She didn't even end up meeting up with him just had a big fight over the fone and then told me they were done. So although this apology might sound AFC, it could also be that she isn't being rude because she shouldn't have been pulling that sh*t while out with me and she knos it wasn't cool.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What happened last night? I don't have time to read through your other posts.TheBaconator said:For those who read my other thread and know this situation, how should I respond to this.
She texted me just now:
"Hey sorry bout last nite i was upset, hopefully i didnt ruin your whole nite"
We were havin a great time until she got upset upon hearing her ex was out on a date and she wanted to go confront him about it, and since she was drunk I wouldn't let her ride the trains alone so I went. She didnt end up seein him just a fight over the fone and then said they were done for good.Mavrick said:What happened last night? I don't have time to read through your other posts.
Nice, my thoughts exactly...WesCottII said:I'd do one of 2 things, ignore it (because what can you really say?) or say "I didn't really notice much babe".
Both make out she's not playing on your mind constantly, and put you in a position of power. However, i'd be tempted to go for the ignore option, because if she ruined MY night, this'd be like her punishment.
Based on this info, this girl isn't interested in you.TheBaconator said:My status is we went out on 1 date and it was great up until she had a breakdown over her ex getting with another girl. We were in the city and she asked me to come back with her to BK just to confront him, which I did only because she was drunk and didn't want her riding the trains alone.
I know i'm not number 1 on her list, but she has interest, there was a lot of flirting and kino from both of us all day, and like I said we hooked up a couple times in the night.Max Power said:Based on this info, this girl isn't interested in you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Truth be told I don't care. I'm not going to pursue a relationship with her, but I would like to hookup again and get some action from her. I responded with "don't sweat it". I'll wait to see if she asks me to come out with her again and if she doesn't i'll give it a call in a week or so.Mavrick said:Don't let it bother you and don't show that it bothers you, but beware, you'll only be a rebound for this chick. It's best to move on.