timmylivingalie
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What do you say when a chic starts whining about her ex boyfriend/hubby was mean to her, cheated on her or whatever?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How to respond when chic talks about ex?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
sodbuster
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Depends on what you are looking for... a lay or information. If you shut up and listen, a woman will tell you everything about herself... and you have a heads up on whether or not to keep her.
CrashOverRide
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sodbuster said:
^^^^ Very true.... A lot of time women will divulge information about your ex... just listen but do not inquire... Then just talk about anything else. You want the woman to be focused on you and not be distracted by an ex flame.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
timmylivingalie
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I kind of lean toward that it is a test and they want to see if you will allow them to whine to you.john1234 said:
BlackEricNorthman
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I like to do two things:
1)Never sympathize with the girl about her negative feelings toward the ex. You know those guys who go "Oh James cheated on Sarah? That guy is a a$$hole she can do better" or "I don't understand what why he treats you this way, he's a jerk". Yeah don't be that guy. That sympathetic route is where a lot of guys fail because they are attempting to show the girl that "hey you should like me because I'm nothing like the old guy". She liked something about the guy apparently so agreeing to bash him just put more spotlight on him and you don't want that.
2)Divert/Steer the conversation in your favor. You want to really stand out in her mind, then give her a image she can sink her teeth into. Try this; if the girl says something like
GIRL: "My ex was so domineering. He told me how to dress when we went out, and wouldn't let me hang out with his friends because he thought they would hit on me."
ME: "Yeah, I could see why he would do that. I would totally do that too, except I'd have you dress like a slutty sexy bunny, and bring me cookies and beer in bed while I watch tv."
GIRL: "Why would I want to do that?"
ME: "You're the one that likes taking orders, maybe you just haven't been given the right ones yet."
You see with the diversion option you play off what she is saying in a fun positive sexual way, while simultaneously mentally piquing her interest in you. She brings up something negative, you twist the negativity into your favor. It takes the attention off the ex, puts the spotlight on you, changes the conversation to something kinky and lighthearted and opens up a new course of convo to play off of. I hope that helps.
1)Never sympathize with the girl about her negative feelings toward the ex. You know those guys who go "Oh James cheated on Sarah? That guy is a a$$hole she can do better" or "I don't understand what why he treats you this way, he's a jerk". Yeah don't be that guy. That sympathetic route is where a lot of guys fail because they are attempting to show the girl that "hey you should like me because I'm nothing like the old guy". She liked something about the guy apparently so agreeing to bash him just put more spotlight on him and you don't want that.
2)Divert/Steer the conversation in your favor. You want to really stand out in her mind, then give her a image she can sink her teeth into. Try this; if the girl says something like
GIRL: "My ex was so domineering. He told me how to dress when we went out, and wouldn't let me hang out with his friends because he thought they would hit on me."
ME: "Yeah, I could see why he would do that. I would totally do that too, except I'd have you dress like a slutty sexy bunny, and bring me cookies and beer in bed while I watch tv."
GIRL: "Why would I want to do that?"
ME: "You're the one that likes taking orders, maybe you just haven't been given the right ones yet."
You see with the diversion option you play off what she is saying in a fun positive sexual way, while simultaneously mentally piquing her interest in you. She brings up something negative, you twist the negativity into your favor. It takes the attention off the ex, puts the spotlight on you, changes the conversation to something kinky and lighthearted and opens up a new course of convo to play off of. I hope that helps.
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ecko280 said:
What if a girl you are banging suddenly says "I am trying not to contact my ex"?
alphamailman
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I just change the subject and do the Dougie.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
scrouds
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I tell her to switch positions, then shove it in her butt. Then I'd learn how to fuuck women, because if they're thinking about calling their ex while you're banging them, you really suck. Bad.Malice said: