timmylivingalie
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What do you say when a chic starts whining about her ex boyfriend/hubby was mean to her, cheated on her or whatever?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How to respond when chic talks about ex?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
sodbuster
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Depends on what you are looking for... a lay or information. If you shut up and listen, a woman will tell you everything about herself... and you have a heads up on whether or not to keep her.
CrashOverRide
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sodbuster said:
^^^^ Very true.... A lot of time women will divulge information about your ex... just listen but do not inquire... Then just talk about anything else. You want the woman to be focused on you and not be distracted by an ex flame.
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timmylivingalie
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I kind of lean toward that it is a test and they want to see if you will allow them to whine to you.john1234 said:
BlackEricNorthman
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I like to do two things:
1)Never sympathize with the girl about her negative feelings toward the ex. You know those guys who go "Oh James cheated on Sarah? That guy is a a$$hole she can do better" or "I don't understand what why he treats you this way, he's a jerk". Yeah don't be that guy. That sympathetic route is where a lot of guys fail because they are attempting to show the girl that "hey you should like me because I'm nothing like the old guy". She liked something about the guy apparently so agreeing to bash him just put more spotlight on him and you don't want that.
2)Divert/Steer the conversation in your favor. You want to really stand out in her mind, then give her a image she can sink her teeth into. Try this; if the girl says something like
GIRL: "My ex was so domineering. He told me how to dress when we went out, and wouldn't let me hang out with his friends because he thought they would hit on me."
ME: "Yeah, I could see why he would do that. I would totally do that too, except I'd have you dress like a slutty sexy bunny, and bring me cookies and beer in bed while I watch tv."
GIRL: "Why would I want to do that?"
ME: "You're the one that likes taking orders, maybe you just haven't been given the right ones yet."
You see with the diversion option you play off what she is saying in a fun positive sexual way, while simultaneously mentally piquing her interest in you. She brings up something negative, you twist the negativity into your favor. It takes the attention off the ex, puts the spotlight on you, changes the conversation to something kinky and lighthearted and opens up a new course of convo to play off of. I hope that helps.
1)Never sympathize with the girl about her negative feelings toward the ex. You know those guys who go "Oh James cheated on Sarah? That guy is a a$$hole she can do better" or "I don't understand what why he treats you this way, he's a jerk". Yeah don't be that guy. That sympathetic route is where a lot of guys fail because they are attempting to show the girl that "hey you should like me because I'm nothing like the old guy". She liked something about the guy apparently so agreeing to bash him just put more spotlight on him and you don't want that.
2)Divert/Steer the conversation in your favor. You want to really stand out in her mind, then give her a image she can sink her teeth into. Try this; if the girl says something like
GIRL: "My ex was so domineering. He told me how to dress when we went out, and wouldn't let me hang out with his friends because he thought they would hit on me."
ME: "Yeah, I could see why he would do that. I would totally do that too, except I'd have you dress like a slutty sexy bunny, and bring me cookies and beer in bed while I watch tv."
GIRL: "Why would I want to do that?"
ME: "You're the one that likes taking orders, maybe you just haven't been given the right ones yet."
You see with the diversion option you play off what she is saying in a fun positive sexual way, while simultaneously mentally piquing her interest in you. She brings up something negative, you twist the negativity into your favor. It takes the attention off the ex, puts the spotlight on you, changes the conversation to something kinky and lighthearted and opens up a new course of convo to play off of. I hope that helps.
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ecko280 said:
What if a girl you are banging suddenly says "I am trying not to contact my ex"?
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I just change the subject and do the Dougie.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
scrouds
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I tell her to switch positions, then shove it in her butt. Then I'd learn how to fuuck women, because if they're thinking about calling their ex while you're banging them, you really suck. Bad.Malice said: