"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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triplekaioken

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how should you respond when a girl says 'you're such a player', 'i bet you're a player' 'are you a player?'?

i seem to get ALOT of that and i don't know if im responding the right way.

i've come across 2 contradicting pieces of advice:

1)women love a player deep down because it shows you're good with women, so admit you're a player

2) don't say you're a player and pretend like you don't get many women so it says to the woman you're not going to play her and she's special
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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n52

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I would ask what the fascination was and why she thinks you are a player.
 

triplekaioken

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n52 said:
I would ask what the fascination was and why she thinks you are a player.

which piece of advice do you think is better for my game though?

1) or 2)?
 

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triplekaioken said:
1)women love a player deep down because it shows you're good with women, so admit you're a player

2) don't say you're a player and pretend like you don't get many women so it says to the woman you're not going to play her and she's special
Its neither 1 or 2......but a combination of both.

Women DO like a player deep down because its preselection. It just shows that you are competent and can attract women. It happens on a subconscious level. BUT they DO NOT like an overt display of this. Bragging and trying to communicate your sexual energy with WORDS will get you nowhere.

So....you combine both 1 and 2. You never deny being a player, but you dont admit it either. You "pretend" to not be a player but NOT because shes special, you do it as fun and take it to the extreme. Heres some examples:

HB:'you're such a player',
You: "......Only on Tuesdays" + smirk

HB:'i bet you're a player'
You: "Well how much did ya bet? Maybe I can help you make some money" + smirk

HB:'are you a player?'?
You: "I wish....i still havent even kissed a girl. Im scared of getting the cooties"

Get it? You never answer the question, but come off as playful and fun.
 

triplekaioken

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TheException said:
Its neither 1 or 2......but a combination of both.

Women DO like a player deep down because its preselection. It just shows that you are competent and can attract women. It happens on a subconscious level. BUT they DO NOT like an overt display of this. Bragging and trying to communicate your sexual energy with WORDS will get you nowhere.

So....you combine both 1 and 2. You never deny being a player, but you dont admit it either. You "pretend" to not be a player but NOT because shes special, you do it as fun and take it to the extreme. Heres some examples:

HB:'you're such a player',
You: "......Only on Tuesdays" + smirk

HB:'i bet you're a player'
You: "Well how much did ya bet? Maybe I can help you make some money" + smirk

HB:'are you a player?'?
You: "I wish....i still havent even kissed a girl. Im scared of getting the cooties"

Get it? You never answer the question, but come off as playful and fun.
lovely. thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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