"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How to respond to "why is a guy like you single" ?
- Thread starter Crissco
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
GettinLuckyAintLuck
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The implication here is whether being "single" is a good or a bad thing. I suppose for some girls, not having some man orbiting around may feel as if they're failing somehow, but that's not necessarily the case for a guy. For a guy, make singlehood = freedom in your vocabulary, and watch the fireworks.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
that he knows of! <---- *write this one down kids, it's one of my favorites*
Over the course of the years, I've come up with the following comebacks to this question. Of course, you need to accompany them with a huge grin, a wink or whatever other physical means to let her know that you're joking. Okay, here we go:
- "Mother hasn't approved of anyone yet"
- "I was waiting for you to propose!"
- "I went gay but I'm willing to reconsider for you..."
- "I'm too smart to get married!"
- "You haven't asked me to be exclusive yet..."
Thank you, thank you. I'll be here all week. Please try the veal...
MyTeamSupreme
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"I've been waiting for you"Crissco said:
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Just what she needs, a guy showing that he's desperate.MyTeamSupreme said:
Read vatoloco's response.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
"Haven't still found a woman that can handle me!" And smile!
By saying this she will be in temptation to find out WHY and IF she can handle you...
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Don Juanit0 your its awesome to. Ive said that before(cant find a women who can handle me) and its true also.. They just had a big smile on there faces after. Broomerick yours can def work also.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.