"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to respond to this text

Comatozed

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Plate that (i thought) pretty much loves me, started texting me drunk last night basically asking to come round but also checking up on me cos she knows im seeing other ppl. I was tired and cba to **** her so I didn't invite her round.

"i guess this means no sex for me"
"ask your date?" - she was at some function with her male friend, igaf she seemed eager to stress this to me when she told me about it but i rly dont care
"nah hes got his own thing, your clearly free"- this is where i feel disrespected.
"nah you're too drunk"
"okaaaay byeeeeee"
i didn't say anything
"that was a frozen quote btw" - think she relaized she might have pissed me off.

This morning i get "sorry about those messages, i totally understand if you dont want to see me on sunday :), sorry again)"

when girls behave bad and then say they understand if i don't wanna see them - in general id say that means she doesn't want to meet up. But this one is so worried what i think in general and always saying sorry for dub ****. just odd she says she understands if i dont want to meet with a smiling face ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Reply "OK" and send that hamster on a marathon, lmao
 

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What are you responding to? she hasn't sent you a msg that requires a response. If you already made plans with her on Sunday then show up, if you don't feel like it then cancel night before and let her keep trying to get you.
 

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I think a good rule of thumb is if a girl thinks you should be annoyed or mad the you should at least pretend to be even if you're not.

I wasn't annoyed at her but I didn't wanna reply being all 'Don't worry about it' and beta i have no backbone type stuff.
 

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Misunderstandings like these are the reasons why you don't text women to go out with you.

For your penis's sake--yes, he's got one--CALL the women you meet! Not only will you build rapport faster, which can mean a faster and easier lay, but you will stand out from the orbiters in her life.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Her: "okaaaay byeeeeee"
You: <no response>
Her: "that was a frozen quote btw"
You: <no response>

Her: "sorry about those messages, i totally understand if you dont want to see me on sunday :), sorry"
You: <no response>
Her: you know I don't like it when you ignore me
You: <no response>

On Sunday three hours before the meet up

You: See you at 8
 

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How do you reply to 'how r u doin with the ladies, got a girl hooked? '
 

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TheGambino said:
How do you reply to 'how r u doin with the ladies, got a girl hooked? '
"A true gentlemen never kisses and tells"
 
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