How to respond to this flake

[jay07]

1. Invited her on a trip this weekend last saturday.
2. She was very excited, said of course. Startex blowing me up all week.
3. Invited me out two times this week in which we met up for a few drinks.
4. Yesterday she acts distant, knew shed flake.
5. Today she tells me she cant go cause she has something else goin on saturday.

Havnt reaponded to her yet. Me and her have history, i needed a date so i asked her. Im upset she only gave me a days notice considering i could have asked someone else, my fault for not having a plan b. I will not be attending this trip now as my boys are bringing their girls, but i was wondering how to respond.

Was thinki g about either ignoring the text; or waiting a few hours and responding with "ok".

I would like for her to be a bootycall option in the future but if i have to cut ties for good to keep my pride then its w.e. what would you guys do.

 

[skinnyguy]

you're about to get 20+ responses about how you should go "no contact"

 

[jay07]

No contact to the flake text is an option i considered but if she texts me later wanting to bang it out im gonna respond. I want her to be around as an option so thats where my curiosity cimes in. To respond or not to respond..

Were fwb but it aggravated me she waited a day before to tell me, even though i seen it coming last night

 

[NewJack]

Here's a great thing to learn from this: realize how little control you actually have.

She knows how much she likes you. If she wants to reach out, she can.

You will NOT succeed at creating interest where none is, you will NOT succeed at fanning flames of desire by strange withdrawal moves. That is an ILLUSION.

What you do now doesn't even really matter. Her internal desire is going to determine the future of your relationship and there's nothing you can do about it.

How's that for male empowerment? lol. Sorry man. Im just trying to represent what I think is truth. Guys spin their wheels when their actual ability to influence things is just so pitifully small.

 

[jay07]

I disagree. I can text her back "YOU STUPID SLVT!" and ill look like a desperate idiot. I can text her back "hey no problem its totally okay i understand!" And shell walk take me as a beta she can walk over. I can respond "k" and shell see im pissed off and it could go a few ways.

This is a chick ive known for a while. I want to get the point across she wasted my time and ruined my trip, without having to demonstrate it.

 

[XY.]

^^Why?

 

[jay07]

Why what? She disrespected me in the fact she had a week to flake and she waited til the last minute. I can find other things to do but next time i have the opportunity to lay her ill take it out in bed.

 

[XY.]

I want to get the point across she wasted my time and ruined my trip, without having to demonstrate it.

Why this

 

[VikingKing]

Respond with indifference. Find a new one. If she comes around, try to **** her. Otherwise don't waste your time, it should be more valuable than that.

 

[jay07]

Cause there was no apology in her flake. "oh i have this to do saturday i have to be there".

No apology. She proby dont care, and the fact weve been texting all week probably gave her ego a little boost she wanted. I want to pull that rug from right out under her. After 3 hours though i think im just gonna ignore it.

 

[Desdinova]

The only time you respond to a flake is when they counter-offer. When that happens, there's a higher chance that her excuse is legitimate. No counter-offer = no interest.

 

[Solomon]

The only time you respond to a flake is when they counter-offer. When that happens, there's a higher chance that her excuse is legitimate. No counter-offer = no interest.

This

Although girls are catching on

"Hey I'm not feeling well today can we hang out another day"

Would you consider that a counter-offer dez, even though there is no time or place

:nervous:

 

[nismo-4]

Drop her ass. Your princess is in another castle.

Case closed. Get out of my court.

 

[Desdinova]

This

Although girls are catching on



Would you consider that a counter-offer dez, even though there is no time or place

:nervous:

It doesn't hurt to pursue it. I've had women use that on me and then successfully meet up on the second attempt. I think some women get "cold feet" when it comes to a first date, but then go for it.

If she cancels the second attempt, then she should be dropped.

 

[PlayHer Man]

I don't always drop flakes immediately. I've gotten some good sex from flakes.

What you should do now is raise the stakes. This means work LESS and make her work more.

No more "dates" from now on. She needs to come directly to your apartment/house or you cut her loose. Those are the terms you should follow now.

Next night you're free and have no plates to f*ck send her a text like:

YOU: Hey, free tonight?

If she says yes say:

YOU: Great. Come to my place for a movie.

If she rejects this offer THEN go NC.

 

[jay07]

Yea i aint gonna respond. Just weird she was all about it til last night. Caught me off guard. Oh well lol