"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to respond to a girl saying "you play games with me"

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What if some of the things you were doing started being interpreted "games" and gets brought up by the girl. Say she confronts you saying "you play games with me". How do you respond?

For instance. I've had to travel to the East coast quite a bit recently, while she is on the other side. This means the frequency of our evening conversations has dwindled. Also she is big on texting and due to getting busy there are times where it takes me a while to respond.

It seems to me that she is the one who has started playing games. Tried calling two nights ago. Received a text telling me her phone was about to die and she was about to enter an out of service area. I looked at her Facebook and noticed she was posting via her phone for an hour straight afterwards. Texted her 10 min later asking for her to call back when she got a chance or txt me when she was available to talk. She hasnt responded to the text ever since.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Common manipulatory tactic. She knows that she is playing games with you, so her tacking it on you is an attempt to justify it and "turn the tables."

Go f*** something else in the meantime. I would drop all contact and/or tell her "when you grow up lemme know and I'll consider hanging out with you again."
 
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By using common sense and not on relying on other people to solve your social situations.
 
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"I like playing sexual games :yes: "

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Still no response to my phone call. On top of this I was on skype last night with my status set to invisible. saw she was logged on for 20 minutes. When I switched my status to online, she jumps offline. She then logs on 10 minutes later to immediately log off again. I am done with this girl.
 
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BigKuta said:
Still no response to my phone call. On top of this I was on skype last night with my status set to invisible. saw she was logged on for 20 minutes. When I switched my status to online, she jumps offline. She then logs on 10 minutes later to immediately log off again. I am done with this girl.
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I've been there, man. The mere fact that you're second-guessing everything and feel it's necessary to "survey" her (with the invisible mode, etc.) is more than a red flag. It's an alarm bell. Get out.
 
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im in a kinda similar situation right now, and i know i have to get out. The question is, how to respond the next time she initiaites contact?
 
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