"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to respond after 2 months of NC?

Von_S

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Never heard back from her after our last date; I just ignored her and went about my business. Now this morning, I get a text: "Hey how are you? Happy Valentines Day, How's the new job??".

Its been 2 months since I saw or talked to this girl. In fact I deleted her number from my phone. I figured out it was her due to the area code where she's originally from.

So how do you suggest I handle this? I can flat out ask "who's this?" and be coy or just pick up where we left off "Hey I'm good, been busy with work (and nailing other chicks), how have you been?"

Suggestions?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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oneboy21

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So here is the reason why she sent you a message on valentine's day
She is out of her plates, for some reason
and she if going to feel lonely with out a guy, so she is sending a mass message to all the numbers. Her gf's might have guys for tonight parties.
In this circumstances she will wait for an hour or so for you to respond, if you don't she will go with other guys.

Now its up to you what you wanna do, If you are i nterested in meeting her, send a response and she will meet you tonight, If you are not interested ignore the text.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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Continue No Contact.

The girl is lonely on V-day and she's texting anyone in her phone.
 

vatoloco

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Continue No Contact.

The girl is lonely on V-day and she's texting anyone in her phone.
^^^ THIS. +1

Now, if you know know what you're doing and can keep your emotions in check, do this. However, if your Game it's not up there yet, just stay NC.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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Guys these days need to be consistant. When you decide to drop a chick, actualy drop her. After a certain amount of time of no contact I actually drop a chick. That means her number is deleted and if she trys to contact me I ignore it. This is to prevent myself from wasting my time. I rather not spend my time idle chatting with woman unless it's benefiting me somehow.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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mate I read your other thread, this girl is interested, always has been...ask her out again,
 

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You could look at it in a cynical way and think she's just using you for attention on a lonely valentine's day, or you can use this opportunity to get chatting, build rapport and get laid.

I've had some great sex and great times with women on the rebound or who contacted me after a long period of no contact.

In fact, my last serious girlfriend originally rejected me when I asked her out, disappeared for a while and then got back in touch and we were together for 5 years.
 
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