"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How to respond after 2 months of NC?

Von_S

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Never heard back from her after our last date; I just ignored her and went about my business. Now this morning, I get a text: "Hey how are you? Happy Valentines Day, How's the new job??".

Its been 2 months since I saw or talked to this girl. In fact I deleted her number from my phone. I figured out it was her due to the area code where she's originally from.

So how do you suggest I handle this? I can flat out ask "who's this?" and be coy or just pick up where we left off "Hey I'm good, been busy with work (and nailing other chicks), how have you been?"

Suggestions?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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oneboy21

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So here is the reason why she sent you a message on valentine's day
She is out of her plates, for some reason
and she if going to feel lonely with out a guy, so she is sending a mass message to all the numbers. Her gf's might have guys for tonight parties.
In this circumstances she will wait for an hour or so for you to respond, if you don't she will go with other guys.

Now its up to you what you wanna do, If you are i nterested in meeting her, send a response and she will meet you tonight, If you are not interested ignore the text.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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Continue No Contact.

The girl is lonely on V-day and she's texting anyone in her phone.
 

vatoloco

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Continue No Contact.

The girl is lonely on V-day and she's texting anyone in her phone.
^^^ THIS. +1

Now, if you know know what you're doing and can keep your emotions in check, do this. However, if your Game it's not up there yet, just stay NC.
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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Guys these days need to be consistant. When you decide to drop a chick, actualy drop her. After a certain amount of time of no contact I actually drop a chick. That means her number is deleted and if she trys to contact me I ignore it. This is to prevent myself from wasting my time. I rather not spend my time idle chatting with woman unless it's benefiting me somehow.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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window

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mate I read your other thread, this girl is interested, always has been...ask her out again,
 

Jariel

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You could look at it in a cynical way and think she's just using you for attention on a lonely valentine's day, or you can use this opportunity to get chatting, build rapport and get laid.

I've had some great sex and great times with women on the rebound or who contacted me after a long period of no contact.

In fact, my last serious girlfriend originally rejected me when I asked her out, disappeared for a while and then got back in touch and we were together for 5 years.
 
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