"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to reply to her text?

bongo

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Hello Don Juans,

This is a question that is frequently asked on here, so I will keep it short.

My sister has a friend (HB 6.5, on a good day maybe a 7) who is into me. She has liked me for a while now, but I never really cared. She is 18, I am 24.

So I came home from work today and she was here. My mom had to drive my sister to some place, and the HB's mom was supposed to come pick her up, so we were left alone at home.

At first I didn't talk to her, I was playing around with my dog outside. Then I came in, she was sitting there, and I say: "Damn, it's really hot today and there's no ice". She was like: " yeah.."

Then I go on to sit outside for a bit, and she comes outside with me and starts conversating. Just small talk, friendly conversation, a little of flirting.

Then we hear that they arrived to pick her up, so she stands up ready to give me a big hug goodbye. I hug her, and kiss her on the cheek, but close to her ear.
She turns her face and we kiss on the lips. She smiles then leaves.

Few hours later I recieve a text from her. It goes like this:
"Heyy thanks for the talk today ;). By the way, you have soft lips. Sexyyyy haha Xx".

When, and how should I reply to this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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joverby

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Dude really man.....You clearly have an easy ass solid in here. Although future akward relations could/probably would happen due to her being your sisters friend(and a good one from the sounds of it)

But if you want to smash her. Can always say something like "Thanks, yours weren't too bad either. If you're lucky I might let you kiss em' again ;) What are you doing on "X" day?"

It would be hard to mess this one up dude.
 

yuppaz

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"Thought yours were too, but want to be sure, what are you doing this X"?

by the way conversating isn't a word. conversing is. This one is in the bag
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Quick

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Agree with everyone here. My first thought was that it doesn't matter what you say because you've already got her if you want her.

As a general rule, though, try to keep it short.
 

Allurre

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If she and your sister are close friends, it's very likely that your sister will be hearing stories about you two if you decide to spend more time with her friend.

Either way, she's yours.
 

Ease

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This would be very difficult to **** up.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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