"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to reply to her text?

bongo

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Hello Don Juans,

This is a question that is frequently asked on here, so I will keep it short.

My sister has a friend (HB 6.5, on a good day maybe a 7) who is into me. She has liked me for a while now, but I never really cared. She is 18, I am 24.

So I came home from work today and she was here. My mom had to drive my sister to some place, and the HB's mom was supposed to come pick her up, so we were left alone at home.

At first I didn't talk to her, I was playing around with my dog outside. Then I came in, she was sitting there, and I say: "Damn, it's really hot today and there's no ice". She was like: " yeah.."

Then I go on to sit outside for a bit, and she comes outside with me and starts conversating. Just small talk, friendly conversation, a little of flirting.

Then we hear that they arrived to pick her up, so she stands up ready to give me a big hug goodbye. I hug her, and kiss her on the cheek, but close to her ear.
She turns her face and we kiss on the lips. She smiles then leaves.

Few hours later I recieve a text from her. It goes like this:
"Heyy thanks for the talk today ;). By the way, you have soft lips. Sexyyyy haha Xx".

When, and how should I reply to this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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joverby

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Dude really man.....You clearly have an easy ass solid in here. Although future akward relations could/probably would happen due to her being your sisters friend(and a good one from the sounds of it)

But if you want to smash her. Can always say something like "Thanks, yours weren't too bad either. If you're lucky I might let you kiss em' again ;) What are you doing on "X" day?"

It would be hard to mess this one up dude.
 

yuppaz

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"Thought yours were too, but want to be sure, what are you doing this X"?

by the way conversating isn't a word. conversing is. This one is in the bag
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Quick

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Agree with everyone here. My first thought was that it doesn't matter what you say because you've already got her if you want her.

As a general rule, though, try to keep it short.
 

Allurre

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If she and your sister are close friends, it's very likely that your sister will be hearing stories about you two if you decide to spend more time with her friend.

Either way, she's yours.
 

Ease

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This would be very difficult to **** up.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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