"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to reply to her text?

bongo

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Hello Don Juans,

This is a question that is frequently asked on here, so I will keep it short.

My sister has a friend (HB 6.5, on a good day maybe a 7) who is into me. She has liked me for a while now, but I never really cared. She is 18, I am 24.

So I came home from work today and she was here. My mom had to drive my sister to some place, and the HB's mom was supposed to come pick her up, so we were left alone at home.

At first I didn't talk to her, I was playing around with my dog outside. Then I came in, she was sitting there, and I say: "Damn, it's really hot today and there's no ice". She was like: " yeah.."

Then I go on to sit outside for a bit, and she comes outside with me and starts conversating. Just small talk, friendly conversation, a little of flirting.

Then we hear that they arrived to pick her up, so she stands up ready to give me a big hug goodbye. I hug her, and kiss her on the cheek, but close to her ear.
She turns her face and we kiss on the lips. She smiles then leaves.

Few hours later I recieve a text from her. It goes like this:
"Heyy thanks for the talk today ;). By the way, you have soft lips. Sexyyyy haha Xx".

When, and how should I reply to this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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joverby

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Dude really man.....You clearly have an easy ass solid in here. Although future akward relations could/probably would happen due to her being your sisters friend(and a good one from the sounds of it)

But if you want to smash her. Can always say something like "Thanks, yours weren't too bad either. If you're lucky I might let you kiss em' again ;) What are you doing on "X" day?"

It would be hard to mess this one up dude.
 

yuppaz

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"Thought yours were too, but want to be sure, what are you doing this X"?

by the way conversating isn't a word. conversing is. This one is in the bag
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Quick

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Agree with everyone here. My first thought was that it doesn't matter what you say because you've already got her if you want her.

As a general rule, though, try to keep it short.
 

Allurre

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If she and your sister are close friends, it's very likely that your sister will be hearing stories about you two if you decide to spend more time with her friend.

Either way, she's yours.
 

Ease

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This would be very difficult to **** up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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