"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
how to reply to a compliment?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
bluelemond: I like you taste!
OR
bluelemond: You have good taste!
shydude
Master Don Juan
i guess that will work. thanks man.bluelemond said:Her: I like your shirt!
bluelemond: I like you taste!
OR
bluelemond: You have good taste!
dannowillbookem
Master Don Juan
danno: you're gonna need to be more creative to get in my pants
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Microphone Fiend
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dannowillbookem
Master Don Juan
i'll do that next time a girl says that just to see what happens
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Best friends? NAY
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You: "Don't be so rude; my eyes are up here!"
(a good comeback since women tend to say that to men with wandering eyes)
Her: "I like your shirt."
You: Hahah, what do you REALLY want? I know you're kissing my butt for a reason...
Regardless of what you say, whether it's a ****y/funny reply or a straightforward "you think so?" or "thanks!", always smile...ESPECIALLY if you're doing the ****y/funny
biker_gixxer
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"Yeah, it is pretty cool huh". Then give her a wink so she knows you are being playful.xbills22 said:sometimes in school a girl will say "i like ur shirt" and stuff like that. how should i reply to that? saying just thanks seems kinda lame.
THE_ADDMAN
Master Don Juan
(credit: Craig from DYD)