"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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derby1

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anyone got some good tips for remembering things?

for instance ive listened to repeats of many great audio snips, and i have notes of famous psychology tips,

However whenever i leave my house i can only remember snippets of things? you would think i could recite the whole things by now?

any memory advice?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I find the best way to remember something is to write it down in your own words and keep it organized. You can take it a step further and reread/listen to the source material from scratch and rewrite everything down in your own words all over again. Keep repeating this until you get it.

Otherwise, for me something has to be extremely interesting and explained with great lucidity and coherence for it to stick on my mind for a long time.
 

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anyone got some good tips for remembering things?

for instance ive listened to repeats of many great audio snips, and i have notes of famous psychology tips,

However whenever i leave my house i can only remember snippets of things? you would think i could recite the whole things by now?

any memory advice?
Not sure what for u doing this but here is a good way to memorize necessary things

Writing down things and putting it into 3 categories
1. Things that you hardly remember and you have to read them everyday
2. Remember somehow - read every week
3. Remember pretty well read it every month

Change categories depending on how you memorized it
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I use to write things down, take notes on material I read . but, i find stuff I read now ...just comes to me when I need it, or you'll read something same / same but explained in a different way and your like ....awwwww that's what their talking about ....
 

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I'll generally text it to myself as it will all be in one location and will be backed up in the cloud.

Problem with writing things down elsewhere is that it may not all be together and plus you may forget where you put that notepad that you had written things down in.
 

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I just read moonwalking with Einstein ... Iv started implementing the loci process for remembering things ...
 

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yeah was going to say mnemonics, memory palaces etc
 

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Nothing works, if I don't write down what I have to do or don't forget, I'll forget it. The Memory Palace works just as well, but it's difficult, I haven't been able to learn this technique yet.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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