"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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derby1

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anyone got some good tips for remembering things?

for instance ive listened to repeats of many great audio snips, and i have notes of famous psychology tips,

However whenever i leave my house i can only remember snippets of things? you would think i could recite the whole things by now?

any memory advice?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I find the best way to remember something is to write it down in your own words and keep it organized. You can take it a step further and reread/listen to the source material from scratch and rewrite everything down in your own words all over again. Keep repeating this until you get it.

Otherwise, for me something has to be extremely interesting and explained with great lucidity and coherence for it to stick on my mind for a long time.
 

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anyone got some good tips for remembering things?

for instance ive listened to repeats of many great audio snips, and i have notes of famous psychology tips,

However whenever i leave my house i can only remember snippets of things? you would think i could recite the whole things by now?

any memory advice?
Not sure what for u doing this but here is a good way to memorize necessary things

Writing down things and putting it into 3 categories
1. Things that you hardly remember and you have to read them everyday
2. Remember somehow - read every week
3. Remember pretty well read it every month

Change categories depending on how you memorized it
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I use to write things down, take notes on material I read . but, i find stuff I read now ...just comes to me when I need it, or you'll read something same / same but explained in a different way and your like ....awwwww that's what their talking about ....
 

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I'll generally text it to myself as it will all be in one location and will be backed up in the cloud.

Problem with writing things down elsewhere is that it may not all be together and plus you may forget where you put that notepad that you had written things down in.
 

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I just read moonwalking with Einstein ... Iv started implementing the loci process for remembering things ...
 

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yeah was going to say mnemonics, memory palaces etc
 

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Nothing works, if I don't write down what I have to do or don't forget, I'll forget it. The Memory Palace works just as well, but it's difficult, I haven't been able to learn this technique yet.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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