"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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how to remember things

derby1

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anyone got some good tips for remembering things?

for instance ive listened to repeats of many great audio snips, and i have notes of famous psychology tips,

However whenever i leave my house i can only remember snippets of things? you would think i could recite the whole things by now?

any memory advice?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I find the best way to remember something is to write it down in your own words and keep it organized. You can take it a step further and reread/listen to the source material from scratch and rewrite everything down in your own words all over again. Keep repeating this until you get it.

Otherwise, for me something has to be extremely interesting and explained with great lucidity and coherence for it to stick on my mind for a long time.
 

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anyone got some good tips for remembering things?

for instance ive listened to repeats of many great audio snips, and i have notes of famous psychology tips,

However whenever i leave my house i can only remember snippets of things? you would think i could recite the whole things by now?

any memory advice?
Not sure what for u doing this but here is a good way to memorize necessary things

Writing down things and putting it into 3 categories
1. Things that you hardly remember and you have to read them everyday
2. Remember somehow - read every week
3. Remember pretty well read it every month

Change categories depending on how you memorized it
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I use to write things down, take notes on material I read . but, i find stuff I read now ...just comes to me when I need it, or you'll read something same / same but explained in a different way and your like ....awwwww that's what their talking about ....
 

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I'll generally text it to myself as it will all be in one location and will be backed up in the cloud.

Problem with writing things down elsewhere is that it may not all be together and plus you may forget where you put that notepad that you had written things down in.
 

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I just read moonwalking with Einstein ... Iv started implementing the loci process for remembering things ...
 

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yeah was going to say mnemonics, memory palaces etc
 

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Nothing works, if I don't write down what I have to do or don't forget, I'll forget it. The Memory Palace works just as well, but it's difficult, I haven't been able to learn this technique yet.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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