"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to reject this girl in a nice way

rkc09

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This girl who has a huge crush on me won't give it up. She's a senior and she really likes me. However I don't return these feelings. I don't see anything in the DJ Bible that tells you how to reject girls in a nice way. She's trying to get me set up. We both go to different churches. She texted me "I was wondering if you were interested in going to church with me sometime". See I don't want to be mean about it. But I think she's trying to put me in a position were I can't say "no". I can't thing of a way to say "no" without looking like a a**.

I can't help to feel that it will seem like a date if I go and I don't want to mis-lead her. She knows I love to go to church and I think she might be using that as a reason to get closer to me. I might sound crazy but I don't want to go to church WITH HER. She's a cool girl in all but she's really not my type. She might make it seem like were on a date and were NOT! I don't want ppl going like "are they bf and gf?" Somebody, please help me. How can I reject this ofter in the nicest way possible.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It depends how badly she's interested in you and how badly you want her ridden.

If you want to tell her that you dont wish to have a relationship but still open to friendship etc then you can just tell her, i'm sure she wont mind friendship

Other than that I'm afraid I don't know of "nice" ways to get the message across.

Last time a girl was interested in me and I didn't like her, I pretended to like her and became the "nice and needy" guy which put her off, much to my delight.
 

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The_Game said:
Last time a girl was interested in me and I didn't like her, I pretended to like her and became the "nice and needy" guy which put her off, much to my delight.
Excellent advice. Get her to dump you. It's not hard.

Or you could just be friends, that's a classic.
 
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