"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How to reject this girl in a nice way

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This girl who has a huge crush on me won't give it up. She's a senior and she really likes me. However I don't return these feelings. I don't see anything in the DJ Bible that tells you how to reject girls in a nice way. She's trying to get me set up. We both go to different churches. She texted me "I was wondering if you were interested in going to church with me sometime". See I don't want to be mean about it. But I think she's trying to put me in a position were I can't say "no". I can't thing of a way to say "no" without looking like a a**.

I can't help to feel that it will seem like a date if I go and I don't want to mis-lead her. She knows I love to go to church and I think she might be using that as a reason to get closer to me. I might sound crazy but I don't want to go to church WITH HER. She's a cool girl in all but she's really not my type. She might make it seem like were on a date and were NOT! I don't want ppl going like "are they bf and gf?" Somebody, please help me. How can I reject this ofter in the nicest way possible.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It depends how badly she's interested in you and how badly you want her ridden.

If you want to tell her that you dont wish to have a relationship but still open to friendship etc then you can just tell her, i'm sure she wont mind friendship

Other than that I'm afraid I don't know of "nice" ways to get the message across.

Last time a girl was interested in me and I didn't like her, I pretended to like her and became the "nice and needy" guy which put her off, much to my delight.
 
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The_Game said:
Last time a girl was interested in me and I didn't like her, I pretended to like her and became the "nice and needy" guy which put her off, much to my delight.
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Excellent advice. Get her to dump you. It's not hard.

Or you could just be friends, that's a classic.
 
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