"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to reject manipulative ex's date proposal?

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So,after our break up my ex has used me for attention on multiple occasions up to a point where I said I am not interested in anything less than a relationship and if that's not what you want I wish you all the best with your life but I'm outta here.After a couple of months she brings up an excuse to hang out so I accept,thinking that since she reached out she has changed her mind and wants to be clear and upfront with me.

Guess what?After one date she decided to start playing me for a fool again.I asked her out twice and on both occasions she said her schedule was full and she had no time etc.Hell no I'm outta here,no way I will put up with this nonsense again.After a couple of days of me totally ignoring her she reached out today asking if we could go out.I have actually started dating this new amazing girl in the meanwhile with whom we seem to have great chemistry and really like each other.Of course I am rejecting my disrespectful ex's proposal,I can't even see a future with someone who has treated me like that.

How do you thing I should respond to her?I don't want to sound childish but I want to hurt her ego without sounding like a fool.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Von

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"No, have a good life" or "i am seeing someone now, have a good life"

Its the answer. Seems you like the ex attention cause you give her opening. Why not shut it down
 

dustmuffin

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DOn't contact her and dont reply to her.
 

Tictac

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So,after our break up my ex has used me for attention on multiple occasions up to a point where I said I am not interested in anything less than a relationship and if that's not what you want I wish you all the best with your life but I'm outta here.After a couple of months she brings up an excuse to hang out so I accept,thinking that since she reached out she has changed her mind and wants to be clear and upfront with me.

Guess what?After one date she decided to start playing me for a fool again.I asked her out twice and on both occasions she said her schedule was full and she had no time etc.Hell no I'm outta here,no way I will put up with this nonsense again.After a couple of days of me totally ignoring her she reached out today asking if we could go out.I have actually started dating this new amazing girl in the meanwhile with whom we seem to have great chemistry and really like each other.Of course I am rejecting my disrespectful ex's proposal,I can't even see a future with someone who has treated me like that.

How do you thing I should respond to her?I don't want to sound childish but I want to hurt her ego without sounding like a fool.
Why are you worried or even thinking about her ego?

That's woman talk.
 

EyeBRollin

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So,after our break up my ex has used me for attention on multiple occasions up to a point where I said I am not interested in anything less than a relationship and if that's not what you want I wish you all the best with your life but I'm outta here.After a couple of months she brings up an excuse to hang out so I accept,thinking that since she reached out she has changed her mind and wants to be clear and upfront with me.

Guess what?After one date she decided to start playing me for a fool again.I asked her out twice and on both occasions she said her schedule was full and she had no time etc.Hell no I'm outta here,no way I will put up with this nonsense again.After a couple of days of me totally ignoring her she reached out today asking if we could go out.I have actually started dating this new amazing girl in the meanwhile with whom we seem to have great chemistry and really like each other.Of course I am rejecting my disrespectful ex's proposal,I can't even see a future with someone who has treated me like that.

How do you thing I should respond to her?I don't want to sound childish but I want to hurt her ego without sounding like a fool.
I recommend reading Corey Wayne's 7 Principles to Get an Ex Back.

Summary:

When she reaches out your response should always assume she wants to see you. She's going to come to your place and **** your brains out. If she doesn't agree to come over, you tell her to contact you when she's ready to come over.

Your best play is to reject this woman completely, simply because you don't have the self-control to negotiate what you want out of her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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El Payaso

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Nuke her hamster from orbit.

"I am dating someone else now and I would appreciate it if you not contact me anymore. Thank you."

Block her.
 

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Rex didn't read your b.s. whiney post. My is this, if she is your ex, she is therefore a part your past so why didn't you leave her there? Why didn't you block her number from your phone and remove her from your social media platforms.
 

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So,after our break up my ex has used me for attention on multiple occasions up to a point where I said I am not interested in anything less than a relationship and if that's not what you want I wish you all the best with your life but I'm outta here.After a couple of months she brings up an excuse to hang out so I accept,thinking that since she reached out she has changed her mind and wants to be clear and upfront with me.

Guess what?After one date she decided to start playing me for a fool again.I asked her out twice and on both occasions she said her schedule was full and she had no time etc.Hell no I'm outta here,no way I will put up with this nonsense again.After a couple of days of me totally ignoring her she reached out today asking if we could go out.I have actually started dating this new amazing girl in the meanwhile with whom we seem to have great chemistry and really like each other.Of course I am rejecting my disrespectful ex's proposal,I can't even see a future with someone who has treated me like that.

How do you thing I should respond to her?I don't want to sound childish but I want to hurt her ego without sounding like a fool.
Quite simple


Your ex "can we go out some time, i miss you and want to hang with you?"

You "no."
 
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