"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to reject manipulative ex's date proposal?

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So,after our break up my ex has used me for attention on multiple occasions up to a point where I said I am not interested in anything less than a relationship and if that's not what you want I wish you all the best with your life but I'm outta here.After a couple of months she brings up an excuse to hang out so I accept,thinking that since she reached out she has changed her mind and wants to be clear and upfront with me.

Guess what?After one date she decided to start playing me for a fool again.I asked her out twice and on both occasions she said her schedule was full and she had no time etc.Hell no I'm outta here,no way I will put up with this nonsense again.After a couple of days of me totally ignoring her she reached out today asking if we could go out.I have actually started dating this new amazing girl in the meanwhile with whom we seem to have great chemistry and really like each other.Of course I am rejecting my disrespectful ex's proposal,I can't even see a future with someone who has treated me like that.

How do you thing I should respond to her?I don't want to sound childish but I want to hurt her ego without sounding like a fool.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Von

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"No, have a good life" or "i am seeing someone now, have a good life"

Its the answer. Seems you like the ex attention cause you give her opening. Why not shut it down
 

dustmuffin

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DOn't contact her and dont reply to her.
 

Tictac

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So,after our break up my ex has used me for attention on multiple occasions up to a point where I said I am not interested in anything less than a relationship and if that's not what you want I wish you all the best with your life but I'm outta here.After a couple of months she brings up an excuse to hang out so I accept,thinking that since she reached out she has changed her mind and wants to be clear and upfront with me.

Guess what?After one date she decided to start playing me for a fool again.I asked her out twice and on both occasions she said her schedule was full and she had no time etc.Hell no I'm outta here,no way I will put up with this nonsense again.After a couple of days of me totally ignoring her she reached out today asking if we could go out.I have actually started dating this new amazing girl in the meanwhile with whom we seem to have great chemistry and really like each other.Of course I am rejecting my disrespectful ex's proposal,I can't even see a future with someone who has treated me like that.

How do you thing I should respond to her?I don't want to sound childish but I want to hurt her ego without sounding like a fool.
Why are you worried or even thinking about her ego?

That's woman talk.
 

EyeBRollin

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So,after our break up my ex has used me for attention on multiple occasions up to a point where I said I am not interested in anything less than a relationship and if that's not what you want I wish you all the best with your life but I'm outta here.After a couple of months she brings up an excuse to hang out so I accept,thinking that since she reached out she has changed her mind and wants to be clear and upfront with me.

Guess what?After one date she decided to start playing me for a fool again.I asked her out twice and on both occasions she said her schedule was full and she had no time etc.Hell no I'm outta here,no way I will put up with this nonsense again.After a couple of days of me totally ignoring her she reached out today asking if we could go out.I have actually started dating this new amazing girl in the meanwhile with whom we seem to have great chemistry and really like each other.Of course I am rejecting my disrespectful ex's proposal,I can't even see a future with someone who has treated me like that.

How do you thing I should respond to her?I don't want to sound childish but I want to hurt her ego without sounding like a fool.
I recommend reading Corey Wayne's 7 Principles to Get an Ex Back.

Summary:

When she reaches out your response should always assume she wants to see you. She's going to come to your place and **** your brains out. If she doesn't agree to come over, you tell her to contact you when she's ready to come over.

Your best play is to reject this woman completely, simply because you don't have the self-control to negotiate what you want out of her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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El Payaso

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Nuke her hamster from orbit.

"I am dating someone else now and I would appreciate it if you not contact me anymore. Thank you."

Block her.
 

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Rex didn't read your b.s. whiney post. My is this, if she is your ex, she is therefore a part your past so why didn't you leave her there? Why didn't you block her number from your phone and remove her from your social media platforms.
 

dude99

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So,after our break up my ex has used me for attention on multiple occasions up to a point where I said I am not interested in anything less than a relationship and if that's not what you want I wish you all the best with your life but I'm outta here.After a couple of months she brings up an excuse to hang out so I accept,thinking that since she reached out she has changed her mind and wants to be clear and upfront with me.

Guess what?After one date she decided to start playing me for a fool again.I asked her out twice and on both occasions she said her schedule was full and she had no time etc.Hell no I'm outta here,no way I will put up with this nonsense again.After a couple of days of me totally ignoring her she reached out today asking if we could go out.I have actually started dating this new amazing girl in the meanwhile with whom we seem to have great chemistry and really like each other.Of course I am rejecting my disrespectful ex's proposal,I can't even see a future with someone who has treated me like that.

How do you thing I should respond to her?I don't want to sound childish but I want to hurt her ego without sounding like a fool.
Quite simple


Your ex "can we go out some time, i miss you and want to hang with you?"

You "no."
 
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