Hey all,
So I recently started dating a friend who I could tell was a pretty needy/insecure girl, she's pretty ugly by societies standard's. But I really liked her, she stroked my ego a ton and I thought I could "fix her" (mistake), so I opened up to her and got really romantic. She seemed innocent, but my god the sex is ****ing incredible. For the past 6 months we've gone through the classic honeymoon period, we thought we were so in love and everything was perfect.
The problem is, I can feel the power shifting and I can feel myself being needy/beta around her. In the beginning, I was pretty confident and felt in control of the situation. Since the sex, it's starting to become apparent that she is controlling me. I didn't realise, but she is an absolute master at playing social games. She lies all the time and can act super interested in what anyone has to say, although I suppose that's most women.
Help me out. I really want to carry the sex/attraction on, but I feel like I'm losing it by being too close. It's long distance but we still say "I love you" every night. Is it possible for me to become a bit more distant now and make her want me like she used to, or should I just break it off entirely? The ideal situation would be to somehow transition to a friends with benefits type thing. She still describes me as mysterious and I realise that is important to maintain, so I don't know if I can use that to my advantage?
Thanks a lot for any advice
So I recently started dating a friend who I could tell was a pretty needy/insecure girl, she's pretty ugly by societies standard's. But I really liked her, she stroked my ego a ton and I thought I could "fix her" (mistake), so I opened up to her and got really romantic. She seemed innocent, but my god the sex is ****ing incredible. For the past 6 months we've gone through the classic honeymoon period, we thought we were so in love and everything was perfect.
The problem is, I can feel the power shifting and I can feel myself being needy/beta around her. In the beginning, I was pretty confident and felt in control of the situation. Since the sex, it's starting to become apparent that she is controlling me. I didn't realise, but she is an absolute master at playing social games. She lies all the time and can act super interested in what anyone has to say, although I suppose that's most women.
Help me out. I really want to carry the sex/attraction on, but I feel like I'm losing it by being too close. It's long distance but we still say "I love you" every night. Is it possible for me to become a bit more distant now and make her want me like she used to, or should I just break it off entirely? The ideal situation would be to somehow transition to a friends with benefits type thing. She still describes me as mysterious and I realise that is important to maintain, so I don't know if I can use that to my advantage?
Thanks a lot for any advice
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