How To Recover From Being Overly ****ish?

[TenOfSpades]

As the title says, how do you recover from that. The woman in her head loves you, thinks about you, all that good stuff. Though you have treated her poorly and she is trying to get her logic to overpower the emotion. Questioning why she is still into this guy who treats her like ****. How do you crack the code to get her emotion to make the logic of her getting hurt again to go away?

 

[TheException]

How do you crack the code to get her emotion to make the logic of her getting hurt again to go away?

By keeping on doing what you have been doing. Shes sleeping with you, in "love with you" so why change? A woman's logic will NEVER outduel her emotions. Add a sprinkle of rapport building every once in awhile and its game over.

 

[TenOfSpades]

How do you crack the code to get her emotion to make the logic of her getting hurt again to go away?

By keeping on doing what you have been doing. Shes sleeping with you, in "love with you" so why change? A woman's logic will NEVER outduel her emotions. Add a sprinkle of rapport building every once in awhile and its game over.

I am not sleeping with her anymore. I left her numerous times. I have treated her terribly. Now its at the point where she refuses to talk to me. Social media has shown me she isnt over it all. Yet she still wont talk. She knows I will equal hurt and she shouldnt love me. So right now logic is winning the battle.

 

[TheException]

I have treated her terribly. Now its at the point where she refuses to talk to me.

well....there ya go. A lack of rapport has probably caused her to resent you now. Its a waste of time to think about her now. Just move on and own life and if she comes back into your life, she will be the one to contact you.

 

[TenOfSpades]

Any other opinions?

 

[BigSmooth]

Obviously she's not with you anymore because you treated her like $hit.

Being alpha/Don Juan/Master PUA/(insert other "cool" term ___") =/= treating a girl like $hit.


The only girls that will come back to you repeatedly and repeatedly after you continue treating them like dog $hit are very low quality girls who have terrible self-esteem who probably would sell their first child for some meth and heroine.


My advice would be to let her know that you treated her badly and that you have a whole different side to show her. Obviously you "pushed" her too far and didn't "pull" her back.

And when I say acknowledge your actions towards her and stop being so dvckish, I don't mean start being a beta chump. If you like her, follow my advice. If you don't really care, just forget her.


~BSmooth

 

[TenOfSpades]

I do care about this situation yes. It was somebody I was seeing, she wanted more I didn't she got upset. I pulled her back months later wanting to be with her. Then we fought cause I did not show enough emotion/affection so I left her. Now I regret being selfish not showing. Tried to pull back and she said nope I am not right. We went out as a group, she was being very distant from me which isnt like her. We got drunk and I was a moron calling her names, being immature.

 

[jeffreylebowski]

When you say "treated her badly" or "like $hit"...what do you mean? Different people have different definitions.

Also, it's possible she's just tired of the back and forth man. Maybe she's ready for something a little more stable and you don't present that sort of value to her.

 

[TenOfSpades]

Any more thoughts out there?