"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to recognize a ONEITIS ?

Ivan_De_La_Penia

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I'm not sure in what situation am I right now.There is this girl which i like extremely and know from a long time but recently i think ALL THE TIME for her.We're getting closer in the past couple months but...she has a boyfriend who actually i know for a long time too.I'm just feeling crazy because she's in some ways flirting with me but still can't be sure if it is just my imagination or it's real.I can't think of other girl no matter i got options in this moment.Give me opinion please it's serious...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lexington

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If you're thinking about her all the time, you've definitely got oneitis. You've exhibited all the hallmark symptoms: you think about her all the time, you're into her but she's not returning the interest (she has a boyfriend) and you like her so much even though you're not even dating her.

Take some advice from a person who's suffered from oneitis (I still get relapses from time to time): avoid it like the plague! It is absolutely terrible! It drains you emotionally and it affects all the aspects of your life. You'll be so down because of your oneitis that it will cloud your thinking and distract you from your other pursuits.

When I had oneitis, i could concentrate on my work. I would try to read a million things into every interaction we had. In my mind this girl was practically a goddess even though I wasn't romantically involved with her.

Always remember, there is no perfect girl. There are literally thousands of girls with whom you could have positive, fulfilling relationships. You have to open your eyes and see that there are plenty of other women out there.

NEVER give your heart to a woman unless she gives her heart to you. Otherwise, it's a recipe for serious heartbreak.

I'd recommend getting away from this girl. Don't diss or anything. But stop calling her, stop hanging out with her. If you run into her, be polite and friendly but don't pursue her. In all likelihood, she doesn't see you as romantic material.

Get out there and get after other women. Once you do, you'll quickly realize how little that girl really meant to you.
 

Kevin Feng

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They call it one-itis because you're super infatuated with one girl, I understand it's easier said than done, but you need to hedge your bet by hitting on other women, if you get stuck on this one chick, you'll drive yourself insane.

Believe me, I used to tackle the problem in the exact same way, I would find one or two girls that I'd go crazy over and try my best to win them over, it doesn't work that way, you have to constantly keep your options open.

I see guys all the time that try to get in these relationships early on and what happens is they end up getting screwed over, never be in the mindset of liking one girl and more importantly never even CONSIDER dating in the first month or two, it's only going to mess you up.

Kevin
 

Ivan_De_La_Penia

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Maybe i'll stay close to her and act if something happens with their releationship...i thnik i'll keep my chances alive
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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