"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How to recognize a ONEITIS ?

Ivan_De_La_Penia

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I'm not sure in what situation am I right now.There is this girl which i like extremely and know from a long time but recently i think ALL THE TIME for her.We're getting closer in the past couple months but...she has a boyfriend who actually i know for a long time too.I'm just feeling crazy because she's in some ways flirting with me but still can't be sure if it is just my imagination or it's real.I can't think of other girl no matter i got options in this moment.Give me opinion please it's serious...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lexington

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If you're thinking about her all the time, you've definitely got oneitis. You've exhibited all the hallmark symptoms: you think about her all the time, you're into her but she's not returning the interest (she has a boyfriend) and you like her so much even though you're not even dating her.

Take some advice from a person who's suffered from oneitis (I still get relapses from time to time): avoid it like the plague! It is absolutely terrible! It drains you emotionally and it affects all the aspects of your life. You'll be so down because of your oneitis that it will cloud your thinking and distract you from your other pursuits.

When I had oneitis, i could concentrate on my work. I would try to read a million things into every interaction we had. In my mind this girl was practically a goddess even though I wasn't romantically involved with her.

Always remember, there is no perfect girl. There are literally thousands of girls with whom you could have positive, fulfilling relationships. You have to open your eyes and see that there are plenty of other women out there.

NEVER give your heart to a woman unless she gives her heart to you. Otherwise, it's a recipe for serious heartbreak.

I'd recommend getting away from this girl. Don't diss or anything. But stop calling her, stop hanging out with her. If you run into her, be polite and friendly but don't pursue her. In all likelihood, she doesn't see you as romantic material.

Get out there and get after other women. Once you do, you'll quickly realize how little that girl really meant to you.
 

Kevin Feng

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They call it one-itis because you're super infatuated with one girl, I understand it's easier said than done, but you need to hedge your bet by hitting on other women, if you get stuck on this one chick, you'll drive yourself insane.

Believe me, I used to tackle the problem in the exact same way, I would find one or two girls that I'd go crazy over and try my best to win them over, it doesn't work that way, you have to constantly keep your options open.

I see guys all the time that try to get in these relationships early on and what happens is they end up getting screwed over, never be in the mindset of liking one girl and more importantly never even CONSIDER dating in the first month or two, it's only going to mess you up.

Kevin
 

Ivan_De_La_Penia

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Maybe i'll stay close to her and act if something happens with their releationship...i thnik i'll keep my chances alive
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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