"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi fellow djs,

How does one react one the person your interested in tells you that there are two guys wooing her. Also, I'm pretty sure she knows I like her. Thanks guys.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"How do you know they even like you?"

Make her qualify herself to you, but don't do it in a mean way. If she tells you a little about each, focus on the things she doesn't like and playfully tell her stuff like, "He sounds like you're type", "You should give him a chance", etc.

More than anything, she is looking to see how you react. She's trying to qualify you, and see how much you're into her. $hit test, if there ever was one. If you do it right, she will be the one on the defense, jumping your hoops, and qualifying herself to you. She will be the one selling herself on the reasons why she is not interested in those guys, and your value will increase.
 
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How does one react one the person your interested in tells you that there are two guys wooing her.

That's a major sh!t test. Here are two options:

Tell her that the other guy and her make a cute couple, and then go talk to a different girl.

or

Act surprised that there is only one other guy after her. Laugh, and say, "Really? I've got like half a dozen girls after me."
 
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Yep, nothing but a b!tch test. They are going to do this even if you're married for 10 years. DO NOT GET MAD OR IRRITATED. SHE WILL WIN IF YOU DO. Do as these other posters have said. All she's doing is trying to get you to act jealous.
 
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I recently had one I'm interested in tell me all about this guy in a bar recently invited her to his hotel room. I just laughed and said "Ha Ha looks like Amber (her name) got laid!!" I assume this was a sh!t test since we arre both intersted in eachother. Thought I handled that one quite well!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Use a mixed response, not jealous but not too happy about it either. Prize yourself and make her see it's in her best interest to ditch the extras.

Something like:

"Yeh? I'm not sure I like that...the last thing I want is some hopeless admirer calling you when we're having fun...you may have one of those annoying ringtones...if you wanna experience me properly, I'm gonna expect your full attention..."
 
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"well sir, if you want to buy this car its going to have to be soon, i've got two other eager buyers. so what's it going to be?"

"You've got two other eager buyers? hmmm, if they really want the car I'll pass. there were a couple of other cars I was looking at earlier today that I really liked as well"

"well..umm....hold on a second now. You know I like you. Tell you what I'll do. I'll knock 1,000 bucks off just for you. what do you say? deal?"

"hmmm, make it 2,000 and its a deal."


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"hey djnles. there are these two guys who really like me."

"i'm not surprised, who wouldn't like you? I like you also."

"really? i never knew."

"sure. you're great. i mean, there are a few other women who are pretty neat also that i like, but you're definitely cool."

"aww thanks djnles."

"no problem."

at this point she'll take over and try to sell you the car. it will be up to you whether you buy or not.

UNLESS she's a better negotiator than you, in which case she'll start telling you how she's going to go out with these guys. to which you say...

"let me know how it goes."

[and walk off the lot at this point - be totally cool about it, like you're off to look at other cars.]

let her try to sell the car to someone else, if she can't then you'll get it at a huge discount.
 
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joekerr31 said:
"well sir, if you want to buy this car its going to have to be soon, i've got two other eager buyers. so what's it going to be?"

"You've got two other eager buyers? hmmm, if they really want the car I'll pass. there were a couple of other cars I was looking at earlier today that I really liked as well"

"well..umm....hold on a second now. You know I like you. Tell you what I'll do. I'll knock 1,000 bucks off just for you. what do you say? deal?"

"hmmm, make it 2,000 and its a deal."


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"hey djnles. there are these two guys who really like me."

"i'm not surprised, who wouldn't like you? I like you also."

"really? i never knew."

"sure. you're great. i mean, there are a few other women who are pretty neat also that i like, but you're definitely cool."

"aww thanks djnles."

"no problem."

at this point she'll take over and try to sell you the car. it will be up to you whether you buy or not.

UNLESS she's a better negotiator than you, in which case she'll start telling you how she's going to go out with these guys. to which you say...

"let me know how it goes."

[and walk off the lot at this point - be totally cool about it, like you're off to look at other cars.]

let her try to sell the car to someone else, if she can't then you'll get it at a huge discount.
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