"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to react when it becomes apparent she is really into you...

styleman

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She always wants to see you.
She asks why you're going to sleep 'so early' at 2am.
She phones too much and won't get off the phone.

etc. etc. etc.

But the question is, how do you deal with it? The concept is nice, but it gets a little annoying, so is like treading a fine rope in that it would be very easy to insult her.

I'm interested in the girl, aren't 'in a relationship' (yet), so how do I keep her happy and also myself??
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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styleman said:
I'm interested in the girl, aren't 'in a relationship' (yet), so how do I keep her happy and also myself??
Why are you asking how to keep this girl happy? You said it's apparent that she likes you,always wants to see you,always wants to talk to you on the phone,etc. You ever heard of "If it ain't broke,don't fix it?".

Whatever it is you're doing RIGHT NOW,keep doing it. Why would you ask for advice on making her happy when she's already happy?

Don't change a thing. Identify what it is you're currently doing,and just keep doing it. As far as making yourself happy,if you know what it is you want,then do it. You make it seem as if you trying to get what you want will somehow negatively effect your relationship with this girl. It really just depends on what it is you want. However,there's always a way for two people to be happy in a relationship. You'll need to straighten this thing out before you two get too deeply attached to each other because if you're unhappy for whatever reason,she'll sense it,then it'll start to effect her emotional well-being in the relationship as well.
 

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styleman said:
She always wants to see you.
She asks why you're going to sleep 'so early' at 2am.
She phones too much and won't get off the phone.

etc. etc. etc.

But the question is, how do you deal with it? The concept is nice, but it gets a little annoying, so is like treading a fine rope in that it would be very easy to insult her.

I'm interested in the girl, aren't 'in a relationship' (yet), so how do I keep her happy and also myself??
I am completely honest with the girls that i am seeing. i let them know where they stand early on.

I got three girls that want to be with me. :)
The first is my ex-gf that broke up with me. I let her know yesterday that we won't be getting back together for a couple of months or years later.
The second girl is just a FB.
The third girl knows that I am going to start dating her within a week or two. She is just waiting for it to become official.

I just tell them and that if I feel something is going too quickly, then I say "we need to slow things down a little bit." They get the hint and slow it down in the emotional arena.

comic_relief :D

P.S. If your feeling really ballsy, then you could just tell her to slow it down. Never had a negative impact on me, but the girls that I am dating know who I am and how i act.
 
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