Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to react when it becomes apparent she is really into you...

styleman

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She always wants to see you.
She asks why you're going to sleep 'so early' at 2am.
She phones too much and won't get off the phone.

etc. etc. etc.

But the question is, how do you deal with it? The concept is nice, but it gets a little annoying, so is like treading a fine rope in that it would be very easy to insult her.

I'm interested in the girl, aren't 'in a relationship' (yet), so how do I keep her happy and also myself??
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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styleman said:
I'm interested in the girl, aren't 'in a relationship' (yet), so how do I keep her happy and also myself??
Why are you asking how to keep this girl happy? You said it's apparent that she likes you,always wants to see you,always wants to talk to you on the phone,etc. You ever heard of "If it ain't broke,don't fix it?".

Whatever it is you're doing RIGHT NOW,keep doing it. Why would you ask for advice on making her happy when she's already happy?

Don't change a thing. Identify what it is you're currently doing,and just keep doing it. As far as making yourself happy,if you know what it is you want,then do it. You make it seem as if you trying to get what you want will somehow negatively effect your relationship with this girl. It really just depends on what it is you want. However,there's always a way for two people to be happy in a relationship. You'll need to straighten this thing out before you two get too deeply attached to each other because if you're unhappy for whatever reason,she'll sense it,then it'll start to effect her emotional well-being in the relationship as well.
 

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styleman said:
She always wants to see you.
She asks why you're going to sleep 'so early' at 2am.
She phones too much and won't get off the phone.

etc. etc. etc.

But the question is, how do you deal with it? The concept is nice, but it gets a little annoying, so is like treading a fine rope in that it would be very easy to insult her.

I'm interested in the girl, aren't 'in a relationship' (yet), so how do I keep her happy and also myself??
I am completely honest with the girls that i am seeing. i let them know where they stand early on.

I got three girls that want to be with me. :)
The first is my ex-gf that broke up with me. I let her know yesterday that we won't be getting back together for a couple of months or years later.
The second girl is just a FB.
The third girl knows that I am going to start dating her within a week or two. She is just waiting for it to become official.

I just tell them and that if I feel something is going too quickly, then I say "we need to slow things down a little bit." They get the hint and slow it down in the emotional arena.

comic_relief :D

P.S. If your feeling really ballsy, then you could just tell her to slow it down. Never had a negative impact on me, but the girls that I am dating know who I am and how i act.
 
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