"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how to react to girl apologizing?

espanish

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I will give you an example of a scenario. This is just an example for you to see what types of situation I am talking about. I come across such situations a lot. I am sure other guys do too. the structure of the situation is like this: the girl apologizes for a situation, then puts herself down.

you see inside a girl's car. she says "sorry it's a mess in here. I am so disorganized"

I have 2 responses and from experience, both lead to a dead end.

If I try to make her feel good by saying "it's ok, it's really not that bad. I am disorganized too" it goes to a dead end. I can't flirt after this. I don't know why, maybe because I start sounding like her gay friend. or maybe because I am not being truthful and people that are not truthful are not sexy.
If I try to put her down "you're right, you're so disorganized, jesus clean up" it makes me sound like a jerk which is even worse than the first response.

so how do I react to such situations? ignore and change subject?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I will give you an example of a scenario. This is just an example for you to see what types of situation I am talking about. I come across such situations a lot. I am sure other guys do too. the structure of the situation is like this: the girl apologizes for a situation, then puts herself down.

you see inside a girl's car. she says "sorry it's a mess in here. I am so disorganized"

I have 2 responses and from experience, both lead to a dead end.

If I try to make her feel good by saying "it's ok, it's really not that bad. I am disorganized too" it goes to a dead end. I can't flirt after this. I don't know why, maybe because I start sounding like her gay friend. or maybe because I am not being truthful and people that are not truthful are not sexy.
If I try to put her down "you're right, you're so disorganized, jesus clean up" it makes me sound like a jerk which is even worse than the first response.

so how do I react to such situations? ignore and change subject?
For that, I'd say are you messy everywhere with a smirk, pause for a bit and change the subject.
 
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