"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to reach that state of mind?

BannedGod

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Yesterday I was at a party, and I was quite tipsy, and it was great! I mean, usually when I'm sober, I do the DJ stuff (eye contact, kino, being playful - for me this means neg hits and C + F) but I always have a little voice in my head that tells me not to overdo it and be careful to not make the girls pissed off at me. However, yesterday I was tipsy and I realized today that the little voice was non existent (I was flirting heavily with 2 girls, one my ex, and I could see some interest in both of them). So I was wondering, how can I kill that little voice other then by booze?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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L B

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One word: Experience.

I used to be the same way, I would overanalyze things and end up doing nothing. It's just part of the process. When you're new to it, you lack the confidence and would find ways to not try out certain things. Keep at it, every little victory will give you more confidence. Don't let the failures be your setback though.

It's great that you don't want alcohol to be part of your growth. If you cannot live life sober, you cannot live life at all.
 

Michael Chief

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dude! when i first started sarging i was frustrated from my fear of approach. i realized that i have NO problem talking to chicas when ive had something to drink.
when i went sarging sober the next time, i focused on relaxing and trying to get into a drunk mindset. it worked =P
 
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