Any tips? I think this is worse than following them around or bothering them in person (which I don't do) because it causes you to use your imagination to think more about how great they are rather than thinking about how great they are solely by seeing their actions in person.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How to quit looking at the facebook/myspace of your oneitis?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Proceed to lose the oneitis with a hammer shot to the computer. That will liberate much of your time to go out and meet people and stop being desperate. 
dannyegg4575
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not going to be easy, i'm doing the same thing sometimes.... just keep doing it if you want to slow down your recovery... but i'd suggest start going out and meeting other women... slowly but surely her image will dissipate like the cloud
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Bible_Belt
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been there, done that. As with other oneitis issues, other women are usually the answer.
dannyegg4575
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no need to break your computer. just cut the cord to your computer. You can't turn it on if you don't have power.
if you want to fix it later, it'll only cost you at most $10
if you want to fix it later, it'll only cost you at most $10
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Been there too. It just takes a click on "search" and type in her username. And see all the new pics they have up. Just don't do it, have some willpower.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Had the same problem with my oneitis....only with texting. It came own to one thing....Self Discipline.
Look, you're just going to have to STOP. You can do it. If you catch yourself starting to go there, yell at yourself to STOP......"NO!!!STOP-STOP-STOP!" It really IS as simple as that. As time goes on, it will only get easier, and you will only get stronger.
Look, you're just going to have to STOP. You can do it. If you catch yourself starting to go there, yell at yourself to STOP......"NO!!!STOP-STOP-STOP!" It really IS as simple as that. As time goes on, it will only get easier, and you will only get stronger.
If you haven't deleted them as friends yet...do it. If you are still able to see their profile because they are in your same network..then ask them to block you or make the profile private. Seriously. It will save you a lot of grief. I was at a point where I was sitting on his page all day and hitting refresh to see when new girls would leave msgs...how bad is that????? DON'T get like that.
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SunnyD said:
Haha, remind me to cheat on my next girlfriend so I get that treatment.
Rebound Material
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I think I got lucky cuz my oneitis deleted her facebook and myspace just a little after she had moved...otherwise, I can see myself in this same situation....and yes, your imagination can really amplify how "great"(sarcasm) she is.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The Deacon
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Ding, we go onto double jeopardy.Prince Beavis said:
We can't really give you any tips to restrain yourself, because the simple fact of the matter is that you'll find a way to look at her profile no matter what.
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PrinceBeavis said:
Was she replying to your texts?
Well for one you can change your privacy settings to see less news from ______. That way when she posts on someones wall, changes her status or whatever it won't show up on your wall. The rest is just discipline, habit, and willpower.
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I'm sorry, I don't get your point.The Deacon said:
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My Name is Nobody said:
Yes, she was. It was some weird "Texting-Land" area of the Friend Zone. But I kind of don't see how that matters. The bottom line, is that I extracted myself
from that pattern, and what it took was good, old fashioned, toughness. Just deleted that number from my phone (even if it took two or three times), quit looking at the screen every five minutes, and walked away.
It's just about will-power. Or am I missing something.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.