"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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For the hell of it I just messaged some chick on MySpace and used some technique that diablo gave but see my MySpace profile is BLANK I just figured ah what the hell and I sent a message and shockingly she responded and answered and started asking ME questions, so then I responded to her with my interests and we have some stuff in common and then she replied yet again asking me more questions.

I don't get it though, I'm sure she must be getting a ton of messages from the "rest of the AFCs" but see my profile is blank. How does she know I'm not some serial killer lol. Should I update my profile with my picture and a small biography? I have no friends on my MySpace profile and I pretty much just want to meet this girl and not have some ****ty "friends zone/online relationship"

Any tips out there what I should do? What kind of C&F should I pull? MySpace profile is blank with 0 friends and she's pursuing the intrest conversation which i'm confused as to why she even bothers with someone who doesn't even have a picture of himself on his site.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Plain & Simple

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Obviously you havent taken diablos or anybody's advice, otherwise you wouldnt be making this thread asking this questions.
 

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what are you talking about? the only thing he said was to message her not calling her "hot" "beautiful" and to actually read the profile (which I did) and my message to her was something like "Subj: Finding Nemo Msg: I love Finding Nemo too. So you're into cars as well?" she responded and asked me questions and other signs showing she is interested and it went from there. I just don't understand. I want to pursue her but stumped as my profile is blank so she has no idea who she is talking to and how can I pursue her?
 

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Originally posted by seanmichaels
what are you talking about? the only thing he said was to message her not calling her "hot" "beautiful" and to actually read the profile (which I did) and my message to her was something like "Subj: Finding Nemo Msg: I love Finding Nemo too. So you're into cars as well?" she responded and asked me questions and other signs showing she is interested and it went from there. I just don't understand. I want to pursue her but stumped as my profile is blank so she has no idea who she is talking to and how can I pursue her?
Who cares how/what she knows about you? She seems about as desperate as you are, so just take advantage already.
 

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Yeah I know that. But how? Just say Oh yeah wanna meet? It just seems so stalkerish. Also because of the fact my profile is blank. She replied to me asking more questions, I just don't want this to keep going back and forth back and forth. So what should I say to end this back-and-forth crap and just get down to the point already where I want to be with her? I can tell she's interested so that's set already. It's just weird, she has 800+ friends list and she's talking to some nobody with no pic and 0 friends. Is my DJ skills really that good when I messaged her? lol. But seriously, what's the best thing out of this? Maybe she replies to every single guy that messages her? who knows. Ah well.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Are you such a loser that you dont know when you have won?

Dude, just chat with her, exchange pics and try to set up a meeting. If she blows you off then , SO FUKKING WHAT? If you are that worried about her being a net ho, then chat with someone else. There are zillions of desperate b!tches on the net.

Online pickups are the easiest.
 

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Are you that much of a loser you need to boost your ego by calling others "losers"?

and by the way, in-person pick ups are the easiest because EVERYBODY picks up online so girls get zillions of messages, where as in real life people are scared to talk to them so when you go up to them it'll be different.
 
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