How to proceed

[GrowingPains]

Approached a girl in the dining hall. Got her number. Texted her the next day, convo attached.

I'm new to the area and don't know a lot of people. So I'm thinking of telling her lets do lunch where we met. I would appreciate some company while I eat lunch but would like to leave the option for her to become a plate in the future. Any thoughts on how to respond?

 

[R.U.G.]

Back away. Low to no interest bro.

 

[Bible_Belt]

The cute smile line is cringe worthy. At least you're trying, though. She basically told you 'no' once already, and that is about all you get on a college campus these days. It is not the time and place for persistence.

 

[Spaz]

Next time don't be too forward.

Keep it simple, emphasising that u r new to the area and it would be great to make new friends (women are suckers with the friend offering - they all want to hv plenty of friends).

If she responds positively to that (99.9% chance) then ask her to join you for lunch - something deemed innocent/neutral (90% chance she'll accept).

Easy.

Once she agrees then the rest is up to you, ur character and personality will play a major role in projecting how great a man u r.

There's no need to chase. Let her come to you by displaying traits that's far superior to most men - women cannot resist it's lure, they will automatically find it highly attractive.

The feminine imperative will drive her towards such a man.

 

[backseatjuan]

Dude, you did everything right don't sweat it. The girl is interested in you, if she wasn't she'd say she has a boyfriend when you first approached her. She saw you as 6 or 7 and you lowered yourself when you texted her, now you have to raise her interest in you. Now, I know you met her at a restaurant, you must be thinking girl likes to eat, and that's why you asked her out to eat with you. Beta men take out women to eat, it's a beta move. She saw you as beta from your texts. You take out women for some drinks, not eat. Eat is not fun, drinking is fun.

What you should do is don't write anything at this moment, absolutely nothing. Wait a few weeks, two, three, a month. Repeat, but now you will be saying hello it's you, and inviting her to go for some drinks with you, not asking though. Let's have a few drinks together Friday night, etc. If it's a no, and not mentioning her boyfriend, say ok some other time then, and repeat just for the heck of it in another two weeks.

Doesn't mean she won't go out with you, she already saw you as 6 or 7, just means she has better options than you. Don't be expecting her to drop everything and date you, that's unrealistic.

 

[Tilex]

Delete her from your contact list and move on.
Her interest level is nonexistent.

 

[GrowingPains]

The cute smile line is cringe worthy. At least you're trying, though.

I thought so too... After I sent it. I didn't have anything to reference from our conversation when I met her (it was all: what classes are you in, where are you from, type stuff.. boring) and from the stuff I read that 'hey it's so and so' was boring. Working on my text game to say the least and this was an experiment. Any suggestions on the first text next time?

I'm not gonna try to win her over or anything. I'm doing just fine meeting other women right now so I'll just move on from her. If I see her around, I'll say something.

 

[marmel75]

Nothing to do. Say "Cool. Hit me up if anything changes and if I'm still single at that point maybe we can grab a drink together"

Would changed that cute smile line to something like "Hey its xxx. You know, the guy you found irrresistable and were drolling over the other day?"

Or something like that...I've never really found any of that stuff to work well for me but never refer to yourself as "cute". Thats straight up gay. Haha

 

[GrowingPains]

Haha I get you. It's not the most masculine thing to say.

A lot of you guys are suggesting going for drinks but I don't drink. I've tried it, I don't enjoy it. That's why I look for activities to do instead. I guess I could go for coffee/tea. But I like to get active so we gon' have to walk around at a park or something.

 

[chuck001]

You should not have texted her the next day. Never ask her if she has anything exciting going on, it looks bad. You are the one who sets up the date, don't ask her what she wants to do.