"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to proceed? Confident Persistence or Withdraw Attention?

LondonTowers

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Okay, been on three dates with this girl. She got out of a relationship couple months ago, she was with this guy for nearly a year. First date she was pretty distant, second date we kissed a fair bit but she was still a little resistant and third date we were making out all night, I was feeling up her t1ts and pu55y and she wasn't resistant to this at all over the night. But she also said she was unsure because she has only been out of relationship for couple months and didn't want her ex to think she was a wh0re.. she hasn't seen her ex since break up, but she said he took it pretty bad, but still occasionally texts her. She said he was a nice guy but she never fell for him and feels like she strung him on for last year because she was lonely.

Now, how should I play this from here on out? I've been pretty persistant, c/f so far.. been pushing the sexual vibe from the get go and while it has been breaking down here resistance, I do feel this is a lot of work. She wants to meet up this week to get high, but she won't come over to mine, (again the resistance to sex) Should I keep pushing on the sexual, c/f vibe until she caves in and sleeps with me or should I start pushing away, withdraw attention and make her start chasing me? I don't want to seem too available, but it's hard not to when your doing the whole confident persistence thing.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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let her come to you..........if you chase her, she'll just flake off like most do

besides, if she contacts you, it's more exciting anyway
 

El Payaso

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You've done a lot of work now I would say the best thing is just to sit back and let her chase. Make her feel like she's losing you. Let her be the one to come up with plans just to see you.
 
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