"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to proceed? Confident Persistence or Withdraw Attention?

LondonTowers

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Okay, been on three dates with this girl. She got out of a relationship couple months ago, she was with this guy for nearly a year. First date she was pretty distant, second date we kissed a fair bit but she was still a little resistant and third date we were making out all night, I was feeling up her t1ts and pu55y and she wasn't resistant to this at all over the night. But she also said she was unsure because she has only been out of relationship for couple months and didn't want her ex to think she was a wh0re.. she hasn't seen her ex since break up, but she said he took it pretty bad, but still occasionally texts her. She said he was a nice guy but she never fell for him and feels like she strung him on for last year because she was lonely.

Now, how should I play this from here on out? I've been pretty persistant, c/f so far.. been pushing the sexual vibe from the get go and while it has been breaking down here resistance, I do feel this is a lot of work. She wants to meet up this week to get high, but she won't come over to mine, (again the resistance to sex) Should I keep pushing on the sexual, c/f vibe until she caves in and sleeps with me or should I start pushing away, withdraw attention and make her start chasing me? I don't want to seem too available, but it's hard not to when your doing the whole confident persistence thing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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let her come to you..........if you chase her, she'll just flake off like most do

besides, if she contacts you, it's more exciting anyway
 

El Payaso

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You've done a lot of work now I would say the best thing is just to sit back and let her chase. Make her feel like she's losing you. Let her be the one to come up with plans just to see you.
 
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