Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to play this new 20yr HB. ?? Guidance Please

jackhamma

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Matched with a 20yr old HB8 on Tinder.
She messaged me "Hey:)"
I wrote back "Hey whats going on what you up to?"
We talked about TV shows and movies for 20m
When it got late she messaged me with a response to where are you originally from and she said "Brazil :)" then she said "text me:) and sent me her #"

So I text her and 30m later she says "Hey going to bed but lets talk tomorrow:)" I replied with "Cool. goodnight"

Hit her up today and were making small chit chat..


How should I play this one out? Can't determine to go for the hang out or just chit chat a bit more.

Opinions?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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apprenticedj

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You've already chit chatted plenty, secure a meet up ASAP. Two reasons: #1 you'll know if she's down to actually meet vs. looking for online attention. #2 These online chicks lose interest quickly with too much texting.

Waste NO time :up:
 

jackhamma

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apprenticedj said:
You've already chit chatted plenty, secure a meet up ASAP. Two reasons: #1 you'll know if she's down to actually meet vs. looking for online attention. #2 These online chicks lose interest quickly with too much texting.

Waste NO time :up:
I shot her a text saying lets hit the beach tomorrow and she responded with the follow:

"I might go in the pool with a friend later at night. You can come:)"
"Tomorrow I have a photo shoot and then going hiking at night so I am going to be pretty busy."

So I responded with "Yeah I'm down. What time you thinking tonight to hit the pool?"

Waiting for her response...

So if tonight successfully pulls together..I am assuming her friend is female, I hope?

Any tips on tonight?? How should I act/play it?
 

Konada

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jackhamma said:
I shot her a text saying lets hit the beach tomorrow and she responded with the follow:

"I might go in the pool with a friend later at night. You can come:)"
"Tomorrow I have a photo shoot and then going hiking at night so I am going to be pretty busy."

So I responded with "Yeah I'm down. What time you thinking tonight to hit the pool?"

Waiting for her response...

So if tonight successfully pulls together..I am assuming her friend is female, I hope?

Any tips on tonight?? How should I act/play it?
I hope when you accepted her offer of going to a pool it wasn't because your desperate. Otherwise, just play it cool and enjoy yourself. Isolate and escalate.

However, you put yourself in a pretty weak position because:

1. You pandered to her schedule. A 2 choose 1 method for dates would be better simply because it shows your time is valuable. A date probably 2 days after is better than suggesting tomorrow, you come off as too eager/desperate.

2. You ****-blocked yourself by allowing her friend to be in the vicinity. Right now she is either saying 'I'm not interested' or 'I don't feel comfortable meeting you alone' Now you're subjecting yourself to not only pass ****tests from 1 but 2 people.

I hope you realize what's going on and set yourself up for success better in the future.

Do keep in mind though she might have some interest in you so just go with it. Good luck!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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pyros

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no need to panic. Clearly she is not THAT intereted in you, this is why she invited you along. Pool at night? sounds good. Just go there, have fun, talk to her friend a little bit more than to her.
If everything goes fine, she might suggest to do something else this time without her friend, if she doesn't, no prob, you can suggest it yourself.

Now, if after that 'date' you ask her out and she declines or wants to meet you with her friends...I would next her.

No harm in trying.
 

Krueg

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I would cancel, this started out bad from the beginning. I agree with pyros, her interest level is low and is setting up the date on her conditions...
 
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