I admit that I've always been too much of a nice guy (aka wussy). I'm trying to make myself better with women. what are some pointers on playing hard to get? I wanna be able to get closer (both physically and emotionally) with women in a "more than just friends" way.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
how to play hard to get?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
the only real way is to have options. That way you will literally be hard to get. If you opt for the fake path, be busy and aloof. Respond sparingly to her advances. If you are desperate, she will see right through any act you put on though so I don't advocate pretending to be hard to get.
Bible_Belt
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how to play hard to get?
Consider it step 3 in the process, with Step 1 being getting a woman to indicate interest and Step 2 being where you give a positive response to that interest. Doing a good job on steps 1 & 2 is what makes step 3 work. It's a push and pull. You pull back when she pushes forward.
Consider it step 3 in the process, with Step 1 being getting a woman to indicate interest and Step 2 being where you give a positive response to that interest. Doing a good job on steps 1 & 2 is what makes step 3 work. It's a push and pull. You pull back when she pushes forward.
Mantis Toboggan
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Yep. It's not about playing hard to get. It's about seriously being hard to get.
First step is to get a life. Get some awesome hobbies. Make some great friends. Have adventures. Girls like me because I can sit down for a drink, tell some cool/funny stories, and then I disappear for a few days leaving them to wonder, "Where did that fun guy go?" And that's not a game I'm playing. I'm genuinely too busy to keep in touch all the time.
So, by having an active life, you will literally become "hard to get".
First step is to get a life. Get some awesome hobbies. Make some great friends. Have adventures. Girls like me because I can sit down for a drink, tell some cool/funny stories, and then I disappear for a few days leaving them to wonder, "Where did that fun guy go?" And that's not a game I'm playing. I'm genuinely too busy to keep in touch all the time.
So, by having an active life, you will literally become "hard to get".
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I agree with what has been said. Generally speaking, women want what they cannot have and like tension and drama. You need to live a busy life, filled with hobbies, activities, and date plenty of women so that you have options. When you literally have 3 different women that you can possibly go out with on any given day, you know you are busy and filled with different opportunities.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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I agree with what has been said. Generally speaking, women want what they cannot have and like tension and drama. You need to live a busy life, filled with hobbies, activities, and date plenty of women so that you have options. When you literally have 3 different women that you can possibly go out with on any given day, you know you are busy and filled with different opportunities.