I admit that I've always been too much of a nice guy (aka wussy). I'm trying to make myself better with women. what are some pointers on playing hard to get? I wanna be able to get closer (both physically and emotionally) with women in a "more than just friends" way.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
how to play hard to get?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
the only real way is to have options. That way you will literally be hard to get. If you opt for the fake path, be busy and aloof. Respond sparingly to her advances. If you are desperate, she will see right through any act you put on though so I don't advocate pretending to be hard to get.
Bible_Belt
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how to play hard to get?
Consider it step 3 in the process, with Step 1 being getting a woman to indicate interest and Step 2 being where you give a positive response to that interest. Doing a good job on steps 1 & 2 is what makes step 3 work. It's a push and pull. You pull back when she pushes forward.
Consider it step 3 in the process, with Step 1 being getting a woman to indicate interest and Step 2 being where you give a positive response to that interest. Doing a good job on steps 1 & 2 is what makes step 3 work. It's a push and pull. You pull back when she pushes forward.
Mantis Toboggan
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Yep. It's not about playing hard to get. It's about seriously being hard to get.
First step is to get a life. Get some awesome hobbies. Make some great friends. Have adventures. Girls like me because I can sit down for a drink, tell some cool/funny stories, and then I disappear for a few days leaving them to wonder, "Where did that fun guy go?" And that's not a game I'm playing. I'm genuinely too busy to keep in touch all the time.
So, by having an active life, you will literally become "hard to get".
First step is to get a life. Get some awesome hobbies. Make some great friends. Have adventures. Girls like me because I can sit down for a drink, tell some cool/funny stories, and then I disappear for a few days leaving them to wonder, "Where did that fun guy go?" And that's not a game I'm playing. I'm genuinely too busy to keep in touch all the time.
So, by having an active life, you will literally become "hard to get".
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I agree with what has been said. Generally speaking, women want what they cannot have and like tension and drama. You need to live a busy life, filled with hobbies, activities, and date plenty of women so that you have options. When you literally have 3 different women that you can possibly go out with on any given day, you know you are busy and filled with different opportunities.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Mixedlinks
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I agree with what has been said. Generally speaking, women want what they cannot have and like tension and drama. You need to live a busy life, filled with hobbies, activities, and date plenty of women so that you have options. When you literally have 3 different women that you can possibly go out with on any given day, you know you are busy and filled with different opportunities.